Something to Talk About.

A friend sent these words to me on New Year’s Day 2016. After reading, this passage I asked her “where did she get these words of wisdom?” she replied, “Someone sent them to me.”

I share these words with you.

No matter what your NEW YEARS RESOLUTION is…! The type of people in your life has a lot to do with your journey of life. Start the New Year with screening the people in your life. Evaluating them will let you know who to upgrade, downgrade or totally terminate. Always remember that not, everybody deserves the special guest star role in the movie of your life. Anyone who is not adding VALUE to your life shouldn’t be in the front line of your life.

The dream of a SADIST is for everyone to be miserable in life. Those who cannot see greatness in their own life will never see anything good in your life. Whoever sees or treats you, as an OPTION doesn’t deserve to be a priority in your life. Never put temporary people in permanent places of your life, and do not be afraid of removing the wrong people from the right places in your life. It is your life then it is your right.

Be BOLD to make any decision concerning your life. If people call it pride tell them it’s class. No matter the economy of the jungle, lions will never eat grass. Even if education is free, a rat will never go to school with a cat. You can never go anywhere with negative people. Negative people are like cars without gas and engines. You can sit in them, but they will never take you anywhere.

Always remember this: never ever embark on a journey with someone who is not going anywhere in life, or not willing to add VALUE to your life. Activate caution in your dealings with others…

What Say You?

The Journey Of Life and People

 

A friend sent these words to me on New Year’s Day 2016.  After reading, this passage I asked her “where did she get these words of wisdom?” she replied, “Someone sent them to me.”

I share these words with you.

No matter what your NEW YEARS RESOLUTION is…! The type of people in your life has a lot to do with your journey of life. Start the New Year with screening the people in your life. Evaluating them will let you know who to upgrade, downgrade or totally terminate. Always remember that not, everybody deserves the special guest star role in the movie of your life. Anyone who is not adding VALUE to your life shouldn’t be in the front line of your life.

The dream of a SADIST is for everyone to be miserable in life. Those who cannot see greatness in their own life will never see anything good in your life. Whoever sees or treats you, as an OPTION doesn’t deserve to be a priority in your life. Never put temporary people in permanent places of your life, and do not be afraid of removing the wrong people from the right places in your life. It is your life then it is your right.

Be BOLD to make any decision concerning your life. If people call it pride tell them its class. No matter the economy of the jungle, lions will never eat grass. Even if education is free, a rat will never go to school with a cat. You can never go anywhere with negative people. Negative people are like cars without gas and engines. You can sit in them, but they will never take you anywhere.

Always remember this: never ever embark on a journey with someone who is not going anywhere in life, or not willing to add VALUE to your life. Activate caution in your dealings with others…

What Say You?

Traditional Women versus Modern Ladies

Dinner conversation with my mother went something like this:

 

my mother and grandma ( her mother)

Mother: “Why can’t today’s women be like the ladies of my time?”

Me: “Mom what are you taking about?”

Mother: “Look at how these so called modern girls dress, they don’t keep house well, can’t or won’t cook, and their behavior is out of control.”

Me: “Women of today are exploring what the world has to offer them.”

Mother: “Well, if you ask me, all of this freedom is causing problems in the home. The women who want to have a job over a husband and children is selfish.”

Me: “Most if not all the women from your generation (side bar my mother was born 1943) are living in denial, the world has changed and the nature of what women need and can do has evolved and so have their role in society.”

Mother: “That the problem women have forgotten their place. In my day women understood where we belonged, in the home, tending to our children, cooking and cleaning and making sure things in the home was right when our husbands came home.”

Me: “There are still women who desire to get married and have babies. However, there is nothing wrong with the few women who choose to either delay marriage and children or not to get married and have children. The major difference between your generation and mine is that we have choices, in your day you did not. I am sure that there were women of your time who did not want to get married as young as they did, but they had no choice or say in the matter.

Mother: That might be true but….

Me: No buts, mom, the women of your generation bash today’s women because they resent not having the freedom to explore life and make their own choices. I have heard many of your friend’s say, “if they could start life over, they would make better decisions.”  What you see expressed by this generation is a reflection of what they view on reality shows; look around mother no one is teaching the young women of today good values. Look at the four daughters, you raised, you taught us proper valves like, self-respect, being self-sufficient and creative. You showed us how to think for ourselves, to dress and behave like women. Most important you gave and showed us that we are loved.  Mom, most of the young women of today never experienced having a close bond with their mother or grandmother like me and my sisters did. The world has changed and it will continue to do so, instead of criticizing the modern women as  you called them, show share with them what you have given me, cause at the end of the day, they  want to be love, not looked down on.

Mother: Speechless

What say you?

News Resolution versus A Bucket List

Resolution: A firm decision to do or not to do something.  A Bucket list: a list of everything that you want to be, do, have or experience in life.

 

Look at the meaning of the word resolution it’s a “decision” to ponder then worry about the consequences of making the wrong choice; or dealing  with the guilt of not following through with losing weight, limiting caffeine intake,  to stop smoking, and eat healthier the list goes on and on.

May I suggest considering a bucket list instead. Imagine the joy of skydiving, changing careers, opening a business, taking a dance class, traveling, and taking a cooking class to release that  gourmet cook crying to get out. A bucket list is about  “doing” “being” and “experiencing, “ all the things that people keep insisting are impossible because we are too busy being responsible adults.

A bucket list should be fun and obtainable and the upside is that there is no pressure to get the list completed in twelve months. The truth of the matter is life gets in the way of those resolutions like the donuts in the office break room; they sabotage your resolve to eat healthier, so you tell yourself as your eating that second chocolate eclair washing it down with a cup of coffee.

I did not realize I had a bucket list until I wrote down a list of goals I had accomplished. In my 20’s I modeled for the School of the Visual Arts and was a professional gospel singer. In my 30’s I became a freelance writer having no prior experiences. In my 40’s I wrote an award winning play, became a grandmother, and dated a rock star for six years. Now in my 50’s, I have completed my memoir to be published this year, had a supporting role in a play and changed careers twice.  This year I am adding to my bucket list interning at a radio station and auditioning for another play. Not bad for a high school dropout who only wanted to get an education and have a great paying job.

What are you waiting for? Drop those deadbeat resolutions and get started on that bucket list.

What say you?