The return of the mad Dater

Hello readers, pardon my absence, I was stricken with flu, or to put is as my son say, ” I was  on the bed of affliction.”

My last post I wrote a scenario revealing how some women are fooled  by seemly well intended admirers. These women allow themselves to be led  by emotions, instead with their minds. As I promised part two:  It’s all about the Ring , The flip side of the Dating Game.

Girl spots boy, boy shows a little interest, girl  makes the first play because boys isn’t moving  fast enough.

Girl slips boy her number, boys smiles but doesn’t call. Feeling frustrated, girl changes the game, she dresses seductively and slutty. Boy pretends to like what he see, he calls , she is excited, they make a date.

Girl cleans her place, cooks, wines and dines him, boys observation during dinner: she drinks too much, she talk too much, she is wearing  cheesy  lingerie,and she asks too many questions about his career and salary.

Boys thinks she is easy and looking to be a kept women.

Girl, turns up the heat, boys decides to play along.

In the mean time…..several months have passed, girl and boy are in an intimate courtship.

Girl is pushing for them to move in  together, boy resists.

Girl make hints about marriage, he ignores her, but he continues to enjoy the fruits of the physical relationship.

Girl is getting frustrated it’s approaching the one year mark and still no ring. She is desperate and plans a trip. he agrees because she is playing for the ” romantic getaway.”

While hanging out in their boudoir, she encourages him to drink lots of champagne. Time for romance, girl pokes holes into condom, boy unaware.

Six weeks later pregnancy test positive, girl excited, she breaks the news to him, he is disappointed, but vows to take care of the child.

She continues to try to win him over, all efforts fail.

….Fast forward one year later,  she  bumps into boy and another girl, he introduces her as his wife.

Girl crying asking why? Why did she get the ring?

I can answer that question. It’s not about getting the ring or setting traps to get it.  Its a mans desire to have a woman in his life that represents honesty, self respect and above all she should  have class and standards.  Men of integrity can spot women who are entering a relationship with less than honorable intention. To some women getting a ring is about establishing a life time of security and they will do what ever it take to hold onto the ring not the man.

What say you?

I-DO-Marriage-Series

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4 comments

  1. Mike Roach Jr

    To you simple minded readers that are probably upset after reading this eloquent breakdown of the game……..You’ve missed the point. This soliloquy wasn’t about bashing a man. The point is that despite popular believe MEN HAVE STANDARDS TOO!!!!. We may not love as easy as you woman would like but we love just as hard the best we know how…..(don’t act like y’all ain’t never seen a Tyler Perry movie) Bottom line is dating isn’t a game but we as a culture; as a people allow the stupidity that society perpetuates to us as a model of what the ” ” standard time line of what a relationship would be by following
    a dumb time line in which you end up one of the statistics afore mentioned in this post……#wakeup, #stopplayingaround

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  3. Dragthepen

    Break it down. Break it down. Thank you for seeing these scenarios for what they are, lesson to be learned and wisdom to enlighten those who stand in the dark.

    Like

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