Tales From the mad Dater



These are things people whisper behind my back when they think I’m not listening…..

Why is she still single? Something must be wrong with her. Maybe she should lower her standards. Yes, because she is too picky and she ain’t getting any younger.

The truth is I don’t understand how I come to be Single for such a long period of time. The way I recall it, my plight into single-hood started after the end of a six-year relationship that I hoped would  end in a marriage, that was 2003. In 2006, I met a handsome Latin man and we courted for 18 months. Suddenly, he decided he wanted to go back to being a Bachelor, he told me this over the phone.

Since 2012 I’ve had my fair share of going out on dates, some good but mostly bad. I’ve learned a lot about men during my trails and error of being single. What I know  is that most men are not patient ( especially when they want to have a physical relationship), supportive, compassionate and they have poor communication skill at least that’s  what they claim. Men can be controlling, immature and another one of their claims, they fear being in a monogamous relationship because it takes away their freedom. For many years I’ve been fooled, lied to and used by the worst and best of them. I even wrote a book ” The Waiting Game” about my experiences with the wrong men.

Being single has been a heavy blight in my life. Some days single-hood makes me feel like I am being punished for not settling for all the jerks and losers who represented themselves to me as real men. For becoming a smart, successful, self-sufficient and ambitious women. I have been told by many people men don’t like strong women.  I will not give up on finding my life partner, he is out there. Until such time one is not a lonely number its the only number.

What say you?

3 thoughts on “Tales From the mad Dater

  1. Sounds like the wait is more strenuous than expected. I can sense that you are growing weary in your quest to find that one that is meant just for you. The best advice I can give is good things come to those who wait. Don’t give up because it’s usually darkest just before the dawn.


    • Dear Mr. Roach it is always a pleasure hearing from you. Yes, I know the saying and its true that I am growing weary, for it is not the waiting that weigh heavy on me, its the games adults play in the dating world that is the problems. People say that they are looking for ” the one” but what they really mean is, ” I am looking to the one for right now.”


      • I understand your point of view. Someone once told me that when you stop looking for the right one for the right one eventually finds you. It’s hard to give the proper advice when I myself have never been confronted with this situation. However, I’ve seen some unlikely hookups in my time that I’ve lasted for a long time so just know that what God has for you is for you

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