Words of Encouragement from the mad Dater

Hello readers and fellow bloggers,

Its been 18 days since I started my journey as the Mad Dater to find love. Today, I thought that I should take a break from  my usual rantings and post something light and sweet. After all I know that I am not  alone in my quest for a best friend, confidant, partner in crime and soul mate.  These words speak to the heart and offer great suggestion when search for a life partner. I hope you enjoy them as much as I did.

As posted on Facebook:

Marry your best friend. I do not say that lightly. Really, truly find the strongest, happiest friendship in the person you fall in love with. Someone who speaks highly of you. Someone you can laugh with. The kind of laughs that make your belly ache, and your nose snort. The embarrassing earnest, healing kind of laughs. Wit is important. Life is too short  not too love someone who lets you be a fool with them. Make sure they are somebody who lets you cry. Despair will come. Find someone who you want to be there with you through those times. Most importantly, marry the one that make passion, love and madness combine and course through you. A love that will never dilute-even when the waters get deep,and dark.-ilovemylsi.com

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What say you?

The single life the Romance is Over

At the age of 45 , I had a revelation that I was no longer interested in being single. I didn’t put much thought into what I was going to do to solve my single status. So, I put the idea on the back-shelf planning to revisit it again.

…Fast-forward, now at the age of 52 the glitz and glamour of having the time and freedom to sleep late, cook or not to cook, sleeping in a fetus position to keep warm , and eating alone has soured.

The single life means being alone, having too much time to be alone; just me and the voices from the television or radio; and they don’t talk back or ask, ” how was your day?” In my house there is no one to pass the honey to do list to, because it’s just me, so, its more like things to do list.

I talk to people who drool with envy because they wish to have my life. I’ve come to the conclusion that they are in relationships, that no longer meets their needs, and they  believe that the grass is greener on the other side. It isn’t  until they abandon all that they have to cross over into single hood and have a oh Shit moment, Oops its to late, when they realize that what they needed to do was to  pay attention to the weeds ( boredom) that grow in their yard

( relationship); and if they had taken the time to care for and revive their grass ( spouse) then maybe thing would have remained green ( happy). Now, the other side ( single-hood) is not as green , plush and happy as they thought. The silence of an empty house is loudest when your alone. the bed never feels comfortable no matter how expensive the sheets or  how warm the comforter; so what is a single person to do?

Most people run out and adopt “Fido,” only to find out that their beloved pet is more of responsibility than a shared committed relationship with a human. I found myself competing with the younger generation of women, them the Millennial, me the Baby Boomer , and they seem to be winning. The male Baby Boomers no longer want my type, strong, focused, responsible and intelligent. They desire young, hot, shapely, badonkadon ( big Butt), ride’em, hard  and hit them fast spontaneous vixens.

These days people  few people start a relationship the old fashion way; like being matched up by friends. Instead, I am doomed to online dating, dam to the age of technology. Night after night, I sit in front of my computer shifting through profiles of men whose pictures resemble mug shots. Reading lie after lie about they are adventurous, romantic and hope to find ” the one, ” yeah, more like the one for the night. Do I sound bitter?  Well, I am. Dating should  not have to be  difficult, and is not a game. People feelings are real and the ones out there like me waiting, wanting and hoping to find the right partner, the deceivers make trusting others a challenge. Anyway, I am going to keep hope alive.

What Say You?

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Discoveries of a mad Dater: Oh how things have Changed

Baby Boomers dating Etiquette      Versus     Millennial dating Habits

  1. Straight forward ask for a date               Can we hangout?
  2. Picks young lady up from home             He said, ” Meet me there.”
  3. Brings flowers                                            He arrives empty-handed
  4. Nicely dressed                                            His pants are hanging down
  5. Turns his phone off                                  Checks his phone every 30 seconds
  6. Ask permission to kiss                             Grabs her and slobbers
  7. Takes her to a real dance                        He goes to a dark club to grind
  8. Is not assuming sex is to be had            3rd drink means she is ready for sex

What day you?

 

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Dating: Baby Boomers versus the Millennials

 

cq5dam.web.420.270Coming from the Baby Boomer generation I believe that a balance of old school ideology, and Millennial modern-day attitude can coexist. Yet, as time goes by the one area where there doesn’t seem to be equilibrium between the generations is dating.

In this modern-day of technology, trying to meet someone for the purpose of developing a romantic relationship is proving to be a challenge. For many of us Baby Boomers the computer is viewed as an obstacle when it comes to matters of the heart. We don’t want to spend hours sitting behind a computer shuffling through hundreds of profiles. Instead, we prefer to be outdoors interacting with people face to face, where we can straight forwarded ask someone out on a date versus texting or sending an email.

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What say you?

Venting: Confession of a mad Dater

Photos taken by aahman_-2Having my say

First, I find the games that adult play while dating offensive and mentally exhausting. Making matters worse, some of the suggestions from proclaimed dating and match making experts; focus mostly on women than men. For example, women are advised to make a special effort to look their best at all times, REALLY!

Second, some experts suggests dating a lot this includes having a profile on at least two dating sites. Their theory is that it’s a waste to spend too much time and energy into one person at a time. They say this is the best way to find “the one.”

Third, be willing to visit all the places you enjoy to attract a compatible mate, living in New York City who has time to do more running around.

Here’s what I have to say,

My idea of date is this, boy meets girl, they go out have fun, then boy leaves girl at her front door by being a gentlemen and say ” Good Night.”  This should happen until Mr. Wonderful understands that I have standards and I am serious about an old fashion hands off courtship. I know what your thinking, yeah in my dreams. Well, a girl can hope.

What say you?’