Continuing on the subject of , Things fall Apart

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If you just…

I would like you to…

Why can’t you…? I don’t understand why this is difficult for you? You met to like this.

I thought you would have changed.

Sounds familiar?  Heated conversations like this take place between couples because one person feels that their partner isn’t paying attention or taking them for granted. Upon close examination, the root of this problem is that one partner is obsessed with changing, grooming, and molding their mate into who they want them to be. I once heard this saying,  ” let people be who they are.” 

At the start of a relationship most people recite these words, “I accept you for who you are and as you are.” However, overtime the little flaws, pet peeves and human faults, that your partner claims are not an issue become extremely ignoring to them.

Things fall apart, when one partner is no longer interested in meeting the sexual needs of the other, or the bedroom demands becomes unpleasant; opening the door for one partner to use this as an excuse to cheat.

Things fall apart, when complacency, boredom, lack of interest, and laziness is allowed to become a 3rd wheel in a relationship.

Things fall apart, when partners allow their physical appearance to become less flattering.

Things fall apart, when lying starts, secrets phone calls are made, habits change, and date night becomes routine, or they get less and less.

Things fall apart, ….WHAT SAY YOU?

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