Bringing home the Bacon

Dear Readers,

Here is something to crew on.

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Society consist of the nuclear family, meaning two adults and their children and throw in a pet or two. Some how its been established that man’s duty is to bring home the bacon. Why? Because he is the head of the family.

Question, if the wife of this nuclear family earns more money compared to her spouse, Does this means that she is now the head of the  family? There are countless husband, boyfriends etc., who are not comfortable with a women  earning a bigger pay check than they do.

Does this mean that a man identifies his position in his home based on his earning power? And what does this say for a woman who earns less?

What say You?

 

 

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16 comments

  1. tameekaking

    In a biblical sense the husband is the head of the household regardless if the wife is making the most income. A wife’s job is to nurture her husband and to never make him feel like less than the head just because she makes more money. A husband is to be reminded that he and his wife are a team. Both partners should love each other and respect one another regardless.

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    • Dragthepen

      Respect where your coming from. I ‘ve had a problem with who is the head of the family. Its been my experience and observation that men take this being the head of the family to treat women like slaves and undermine their position as a decision maker, and they have very little voice in their own home

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      • tameekaking

        If a man who claims to be a Christian abuses his authority then he has to get his heart right with God. A husband is suppose to love his wife as Christ loved the church.

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      • Dragthepen

        As I said to another of my blog supporters, please keep in mind that the world is not 100 percent made up of marriages are made up of people who are believers in Christ. or that fact people who have never known Christ. When I post those topic I am talking to all people. I agree with the fact that a man of God, should be held to a different standard,and teach non believers how to love their wives,

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  2. Mike Roach jr

    I don’t really care who makes more money in my house. Its all coming to the same account. I’m pretty sure being a retired Army / Combat veteran my wife is eventually gonna make more than me being a hair salon owner. I know who I am. I believe that’s the problem with most men in today’s society. They can’t separate their who form their do. Biblically the man is the head and is to live his wife so as to give his life for her. The wife is the help meet. She is the supporter and uplifted of the husband. This is only works if both know and understand how’s the roles when effectively carried out the foundation is very solid

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    • Dragthepen

      True that. keep in mind that not all people are Biblical. I myself, a true believer in Christ, have a difficult time being in a house that is by ruled by the bible.
      I have observed many supposed men who claim to be believers in Christ, use the words of the gospel to abuse, disrespect and degrade their wives, all because of that simple phrase ” head of the house.” I have seen men who are not church goers behave in the same manner. It scares me to the point that I stay single, not because I don’t want a man who will take his rightful position as head of the house. I was once in an abusive marriage and the more I tried to the biblical thing and summit to my husband, the more he would abuse me. He took that for weakness.

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  3. Vick Kinetips

    The person who brings mostly the money to provide for the family is the leader at 51% at least. But don’t underestimate the support of the partner that wins zero or less money!
    Spouse or husband bringing home the bacon is not a factor in my opinion. The two have to help each other the way they can.

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    • Dragthepen

      Hello Vick, Thank you for your comment and for supporting my blog. I’m not one of those people who view relationships as a 50/50 partnership. We are suppose to enter into them a whole person. I agree the each mate, spouse, partner should be willing to help each other out. what I don’y agree with is the term ” head of the house” as far as I am concern its two people in the house and no one should feel that they are more superior due to earning power. They should lead together. This is the reason why the majority of relationships are failing because women are feeling under valued.

      What say You?

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  4. robert okaji

    I believe in equal partnerships. Who makes more money hasn’t mattered in our house (we’ve both taken the “lead” as far as earning goes, at various times), but we consult each other on monetary matters (and others) and this works for us.

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    • Dragthepen

      Thank you for support my blog ans leaving a comment.
      I agree that it shouldn’t matter who earns more than the next partner.
      Equality in a relationship is difficult to find.
      Good for you and your partner.

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  5. Carl D'Agostino

    If couples have a real sense of partnership these questions should evaporate. Unfortunately “who brings home the bacon” is probably the most dangerous area that ruins many relationships.

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  6. unholypursuit

    Yes, in the idea world, the man being the sole head of the household would work as God intended. Had things worked as God intended there would’ve been no need for him to die on the cross. But even when we look back on the truthfulness of history; in reality that idea has never worked. I once worked at a domestic violence shelter and I saw women come in all hours of the night talking about the head of the household quote, some if she worked he had beaten her up and taken the money while others had none. This is an ill that kept silent that knows no boundary. When I listen to talk I realized most was trying to live a life that was never real to begin with. Too many bought into a fantasy and I have had to watch a few have a coffin lid closed in their face. I know this post isn’t about domestic violence but the issue of bringing home the bacon and domestic violence often goes hand in hand,

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    • Dragthepen

      I agree with your statement,The issue of bringing home the bacon and domestic violence goes hand in hand. My personal experience, when I was married, my then husband wanted me to stay home, i was working while we dated, I did what he asked for three month. During that time he showed me because he brought home the bacon, I had no say, I would have to explain what I did with his money he gave me,and he give me very little for my personal needs, I went back to my job, he didn’t like that, so his punished me by making me pay half of all the bill. Needless to say, I left after 6 years. Started life a new life on my own and I never looked back.

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