Don’t live your life singing the” When” song. Most people think they that need certain conditions in their life to be happy. Although, in some cases this may be true, but putting off certain goals that we have control over only leads to time wasted and regrets. Don’t be one of those people who say things like, when I acquire an education I will be happy. When I earn more money then I can travel and see the world. When I move into a better house then I can enjoy myself. When I lose the weight then I will look better. When my children grow up then I can concentrate on my life. When I save up a certain amount of money then I will feel secure. When I have time I will start or finish that project. When….When…. the time to live life is now. Each day we should experience something new, and most importantly, make time for the people in our life who truly matter. The time is now….. When may never come.
Dear reader, recently I embarked on a 90 day journey of reflection, discovery and renewal. I would like to share with you my three-day mental break, not a vacation or staycation, my first ever mental break. Let me explain, its been a long time since I have taken a break that did not include going to see the grandchildren ( the three loves of my life) or visiting my mother who lives in South Carolina. I have had the romantic get away and the girls road trip. But I have never taken a mental break and go where I wanted and just do nothing. This is the summary of my three day mental break and what I learned.
Its been years since I have taken a time out and retreated from life with a purpose. I choose a beautiful space in the country to take for refection, and renewal of my body, mind and spirit. I needed to get away from the responsibilities of work, writing, blogging, and think about the new direction for the next stage of my life. I have come to this conclusion, I am going to be patient and stay focused and not allow distractions to take me off my path. I deserve to surrounded myself with pointless people, meaning people who do not support my growth in all areas of my life.
Goal number 1. Complete all writing projects by Before June 1, 2019. Goal number 2. Complete my Masters (I have one class remaining) fall 2019. Goal number 3. Clean up my finances. I have stated this journey to reclaim my health, and to reflect and begin a new path in life where I can reap better results. I am preparing to live the life that I have visioned. The writing projects is for personal satisfaction. Completing my education is about making a new career goal. Cleaning up my credit reports and focusing on my finances will afford me the money that I need to keep taking mental breaks, better vacations and to move out of New York City, a goal that I have been talking about for years. At this stage of my life my personal life is not important. I need all my time and energy to achieve my goals , and I seriously need to ponder if I really want to be in a relationship. I need time to reevaluate that part of my life. In the meantime, I must get busy I do not have any more time to waste.
I hope reading this will inspired you to think about starting your own journey of reflection, discovery and renewal. Take a step back and think when was the last time you had a real mental break.
I sold out and I settled. I can do better, but I did what so many others do when they feel beaten down by life and loneliness we settle. We tell ourselves that the situation we are settling for is not so bad. All the while the little voice in the back of your head whispers, who do you thinking you’re fooling? When you are in the state that you chose to settle whether it’s a job, the place you live, people we live with or a partner there are constant reminders flashing themselves daily letting us know that we are not being true to ourselves. The world is full of unhappy people who have settled. They live each day with buildup resentment because that little voice gets louder saying, you desire better or why didn’t you wait? This is an unhealthy emotional state to live in. In the beginning you tried to quiet the voice but as time goes by that job you settled for becomes a place of torture. The house, apartment and neighborhood that you took because you felt that you had no choice become a place of tribulation instead of peace. And the partner you settled for he or she becomes the person you want to run away from instead of getting closer to them. In the end if you truly desire to be true to thyself you face the truth that you willingly made a mistake hope no one gets hurt and you get out. There is no happiness in denial.
What say you?
Dear reader, I thank you for indulging me by watching my videos and posting comments. I have created a You Tube channel. I like to refer to this channel as my talk show. I created the talk show Conversations with J. R. Floyd to discuss relationship topics. No, I am not an expert on relationships. No, I am not trying to advise people how to save their broken relationships. My mission is to get people thinking and talking to each other. Have you noticed that people who are in unhappy or dysfunctional relationships talk to every one who will listen about their relationships problems, but they do not talk to their partner. I hope that my videos will help people to begin to engage in conversations with each other and start to heal.