The Therapy of Listening

The power of listening.

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“The first duty of love is to listen.”

Paul Tillich


Make out time today to really listen to someone. The only therapy some people actually need is someone who can just hear them out.

Do someone that favor today. Help a soul out of its predicament and captivity.

Today, you can be someone’s doctor by just listening to them bare their minds.

Listen to your kids today_ just hear them out.

Listen to your spouse today_ let them bare their mind; encourage them to do so. And really hear them out.

Make that happen for someone today 🤗

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If I were a book

Dear Readers, Greetings from Dragthepen

We count sheep to sleep, the number of day of the week, and the number of toes on a baby’s feet.

We count the day between the change of the seasons, some even count the days until retirement.

Have you ever wondered about counting the number of people who suffer from brokenness and hopelessness?

Today, while I was reviewing my new website and sharing it with friends, one of my dedicated viewers sent me this piece

The words literally brought tears to my eyes because what he wrote summed up how

I have been feeling about my life. I am sharing this with his blessings and hope that these words will encouraged

people to give a moment to understanding, compassionate and patient with others because you do not know their secret pain.

If I were a book, by Marc Henry Jean

If I were an open book I would be dusty on an old creaky bookshelf.

In my pages would be details on mystery and honesty, so sharp that the second I’m finally opened it difficult to put me down.

If I were a book I would be the embodiment of all books merged into one.

I would be poetry enlightened and powerful.

I would be filled with joy that makes you smile and excited to read the next sentence.

I would be the river ….No..I would be the waves flowing to the sounds of nature in perfect melody.

I would be love…hate…No I would be love while hate try to rush Its way back against your smile and you’ll keep hate pinned against the shadow.

I would be the missing pieces to your puzzle…. the Ying to your Yang….your push and pull.

I would be art simple, yet deeply meaningful…I would be you …looking in the mirror realizing your beauty and your struggles.

I would be old and dusty because no one bothered to crack me open to read my truth.

Than you for reading and please visit my website

http://www.conversationswithjrfloyd.com/

 

The Challenge of Being a Traditional Wife

 

Dear Readers, There is a debate that women should  go back to being traditional wives. It’s the thinking of some people that if women go back to being traditional  wives, then this will keep husbands from staying,  they can focus on the children and this will heal the family structure. so, I say if women have think about becoming traditional wives then husbands should do the same. Instead of the husband spending time working to buy a new sport car, expensive watches, shoes   and clothing. Becoming a traditional husband means that you work to take care of your family and to meet all of their needs. You spend quality time with you family, instead of watching sports all day, or going out on the road to hang with you friends  to avoid being home with your wife and children. Being a traditional husband means that men give their pimp daddy, player life style and become a one woman  man.

If men are expecting women to devote all of their time and energy  taking care of the family then they should do like wise.

 

Sweet Smell of Life

Dear Readers,  I lost everything, or at least I thought I did. Two years ago my life was turned upside down, first, I lost my apartment, and broke off my engagement, in two years I have moved four times into roommates situations. In the progress of moving I had to let go of material items. Things that I put blood and sweat into purchasing. I gave them away to people who were in need, and the most painful of all I had to leave my entire bedroom set in my old apartment because I didn’t have the time or many to put everything in storage.

When life hits you with an unexpected curve ball and in my case several curve balls, you learn how to put things in prospective, at least this is what I did. For the last year I have lived in a beautiful four bedroom apartment with two bathrooms with a great roommate, but I spend the bulk of my time in my room. What I have gained is the knowledge of how to live with less and be happy. In a few months December 1, 2019, I will officially, move into my own apartment, and I am looking forward to starting from ground zero, and living the next half of my life as a MINIMALIST. I live with just what I need and understanding that material processions don’t mean that I have quality of life, its just stuff that I worked hard to acquire, and sometimes don’t enjoy.

Refocusing my means having  time to slow down, experience and enjoy peace at home, and time to rediscovery and discover who I am. I’ve revisited the joys of reading books that have lead to me to understand that I was basically in a fog for years, and that I wasn’t living my best life. In two years, I have traveled, keep promises to myself that I have pushed back for years. I do more impromptu things, I focus more on me, health, and most important  I keep a daily gratitude journal. Yes. I know you have heard this over and over that a good life is a life that is filled with Gratitude. Since June I’ve been keeping a morning and evening Gratitude journal. I’ve practice the habit of starting my day with extra time to sit in peace, listen to a motivational video, journal, reflect, and plan that my day is going to be a good one. No matter how bad I think a day is I look forward to looking for five things that I have to be thankful for that day.

I am literally starting from ground zero with everything. my new apartment won’t be stuff with things, but it will be pretty, and filled with dinners with family and friends. I am refocusing my priorities in the order of important, spending more time on the goals that are important to me like, my next two books, my YouTube channel, Conversations with J. R. Floyd, rejoicing in the release of my new website, Conversations with J. R. Floyd on Squarespace ( October 2019).  I use to think of starting over as a depressing life event, I don’t anymore. I see starting from ground zero as a chance to start fresh and leave the old drama behind. I look forward to each day because I have new goals that will become a reality now that I  know how to prioritize, plan, slow down, keep distractions away.   Sometime an ending and be a new beginning. If this is you, don’t look back,  life is so much better when you look forward.

Here is the five things that I have to be thankful for today.

  1. Today,I am thankful that I didn’t allow the hands of depression to control me.
  2. Today, I am thankful for good health.
  3. Today, I am thankful that I have a chance to rebuild my life from ground zero.
  4. Today, I am thankful to have something to be thankful for.
  5. Today, I am thankful because I can look forward to living my best life.

J. R. Floyd, Dragthepen

I challenge you to list  Five things that you are thankful for?8 ways you gain when you accept change, Tips from Sharvi.

When The Beauty Fades

Dear Readers,  we live in a society where body shaming is due to people trying to live up to an ideal body image. Question, what happens in a relationship over time when a partners beauty fades and their physical appearance changes, do you consider looking elsewhere or do you stay and embrace and love your partner? Let’s be realistic nothing  stays the same, over time things change, but this is not the same as a person letting themselves go. as most people do.  I hope that this will inspire people to have intimate conversations with each other and begin to heal.

Thank you for watching. For more relationship topics subscribe to my YouTube channel  Conversations  with J. R. Floyd

CHANGE WITH THE SEASONS

Dear Readers, change with the seasons.

Recently I posted a video discussion about the changing seasons. We all have our favorite season. As we enter into the Fall season or the season of harvest, I hear people groaning about the ending of summer and the anticipation of winter; so much expressions of sadness and Fall doesn’t officially start until September 23.

Most people allow the change of seasons to regulate their moods thus effecting their behavior. Its natural to want to live in a warm cilmate because it makes people feel better. On a recent trip to California I thought about what life would be like if there were no cold snowy Winters, and April showers. Living in a warm climate allows the opportunity for longer days, and more time spent outdoors, a wonder contrast to staying indoors in fear of the cold. Has it ever occurred to you that we don’t have to allow the changing seasons to have a negative impact on our mindset or limit our activities. The seasons do what they do naturally without effort. Each seasons knows when its time to fall back or spring forth. I like Winter snow when it white, fresh and beautiful. I like rainy days at least when I can spend them at home.

I enjoy the color festival of the Fall and all the wonderful smells of spices like; vanilla, pumpkin, apple cider, cinnamon, nutmeg and all the other delicious smells and tastes that usher in the holiday season. We don’t have to view the changing seasons as something to dread, instead think about changing with the seasons.

Starting with Fall, a time to let go and declutter, Instead of waiting for Spring to clean. Fall can be a time to reflect, and get rid of emotional baggage. Look around your environment does your home reflect the way you feel? Are you holding onto things that have long out weighed their usefulness? Are there relationships you should detach from to make room for personal growth. When the seasons change they do so without hesitation, what needs to die, will die because the atmosphere is being prepared for renewal of the next season. I see Fall as a time to explore.

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Old Man Winter doesn’t have to be viewed as the worst time of the year; When people shut themselves in and becone indifferent due to the snow and freezing temperatures. Winter can be a time of close bonding with family and friends and a time of discovery. The problem is that most people are bored during winter because they don’t take advantage of learning new activities like skiing, snow boarding or ice skating. There are many winter resorts that have great outdoor and indoor activities. Winter can be a time to create family actvities such as, games night, pot luck dinners, family members can take turns hosting movies night. Winter brings the holiday season a perfect time to have an open house or decorating parties. I know many towns that host winter festivals that are perfect for a winter weekend getaway.

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Spring is always a welcomed time of renewal in anticipation of summer. Most people like to rush the season of spring in order to get to Summer. I think that Spring is a season that is underappreciated for all the wonderful work nature does to prepare for the renewal of the earth.  Spring has the task of softnering the earth, preparing for the return of wild life. The rain washes and nurtures the earth welcoming the warmth of the sun to complete the amazing metamorphosis of green grass, and bursts of colorful flowers, and the abundance of trees.

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There is said to be 90 days of summer. And we are currently in ” the dog days of summer,” soon the days will be shorter, nights longer when the clocks falls back, backyards are closed, grills covered, pools emptied, boats anchored, birds flocking south, and squirrels gather food to hunker down for the long winter months.
May I suggest we enjoy each day, catch the warmth of the sun for as long as you can, for there is no need to worry, seasons change and summer will be back again.

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