Dear Readers,
Repeat after me.
I matter
be kind to yourself 💙
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You Matter
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Monthly Archives: May 2021
Family Values
Dear parents, grandparents, and other extended family members. Are you paying attention to how your dressing or allowing your young daughter’s to dress? Shorts are getting shorter and butt cheeks are hanging out. T-shirts are tighter and smaller exposing young breast. Dresses are shorter exposing innocent private areas. Leggings are becoming thinner featuring panty lines. Parents your thinking these are my children and no one has the right to tell you how to raise them. Reminder, this is a different world morals, values, and respect are not important to child molesters. I am thankful that back in the day I was raised and protected by a village.
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All is not Fair
Dear Readers,
There are laws against
Antisemitism
Antiasian
White people hide behind the Constitution of the United States.
Laws for the protection of the LGTBTQIA community.
Animal Cruelty laws
Laws to protect people with disabilities
But no laws protecting people of color from crimes committed against them.
The struggle continues
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Mental illness their story 👀
” Mental Health Awareness” month, is coming to an end. I would like to remind others that” hurting people will hurt others” might be true, however, we don’t know the stories that lead hurting people to inflect pain on others. Not using this as an excuse, but have you ever stopped to think that their behavior is all they know? It is easy to come to our own conclusion or judge others based on their behavior, lack of emotional control, or people who seem distant, meaning they don’t react to situations in the matter we precive as the ” norm.” We don’t know how many hurting people come from abusive homes, witnessed domestic violence, experienced sexual assault, neglect, physical, verbal and mental abuse.
Even if hurting people break free from the situations that result in them becoming emotionally broken suffering from PTSD, acholiism, or other forms of drugs addiction to surrpessed the pian of their experiences, another reminder, they are not bad people. I am saddenly reminded of a childhood friend who struggled with the painful experience of being violenctly rape at the age of 12. The experience transformed her from a happy innocent child to a life of being promiscuous, and becoming an acholic dying from AIDS. I am old almost faded picture of use as children setting on a bench laughing and eating Ice cream 🍦. Each time I look at that picture I think about how she struggled to live a ” normal life” but the pain of that day consumed her.
Even if you don’t understand the experiences of hurting people, remember you haven’t walked in their shoes. Prayer, compassion, listening, and patients is all anyone deserve.
A moment of compassion 🥰
Dear Readers,
Before we passed judgement reminder,
Hurting people hurt others because that’s all they know. They need prayer & compassion 🙏
We don’t know their story.
People
Dear Readers,
Accept people as they are, but PLACE people where they belong
Greener Grass part 2
Dear Readers, greener grass part 2
They say, ” the grass is greener on the other side because it’s watered.”
I say, ” it’s not that the grass is greener, or the water, rather it’s about the quality of the seed”. To my knowledge every good thing begins with a stable foundation.
This thought came to me by way of a conversation about people who experience difficulty establishing quality inmate relationships or lasting friendships ( BFF). I think that all relationship’s should begin by observing the quality of people’s character, morals, and values. So often people get caught up in the tide of emotions graped by feelings of neediness that this leads some people to be blind sided and unaware of the warning signs of disturbing behavior and patterns from the individuals who are the objects of their desires.
Some people develop the habit of moving from relationship to relationship thinking that the grass will be greener on the other side when they become dissatisfied with the behavior of their partner. This society is overwhelmed with serial daters and people who are addicted to looking for love and friendship in all the wrong faces. A new relationship won’t fix when people are unwilling to understand the root cause of ” where did we go wrong.” Sometimes it is not always the “we” but the “me.” or the failure to take the time to understand the emotional adjustments and many compromises an individual sacrifice in a relationship and friendship in order to make
“ The grass greener.” In other words, I think people forget that a relationship is a partnership, it takes both persons to make the time and effort to work together to weed out problems, nurture each other, and understand personalities. Let me put it this way, no two lawns are the same, the greener, healthier and plush grass is not only due to it being watered. It is the attention of the owner, who takes the time to plant the best seed, weed, water, cut and feed the growing grass because the owner takes pride in the fruits of his labor. The lawn that begins its foundation with cheap seed, unnurtured soil, lacks regular watering, bearing weeds and overgrown with neglect, due to the owner not caring for what he has.
The seed is your foundation, nurture it and watch it grow.
Up close with J. R. Floyd
Dear Readers, here I am Dragthepen, A.K.A. J. R. Floyd
In 2015 I published my first book, The Waiting Game, thus began the journey in creating Conversations with J R Floyd. Now you might be wondering, who is this J. R. And where did she come from? Welcomed to the interview that will answers those questions and more. Sit back and relax, This is Conversations with J R Floyd. Actor, Espirito Domingo interviews J.R. Floyd. Enjoy this up close and personal interview.
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Lessons from the Pandemic
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Dear Readers, What the pandemic has taught me.
Before the pandemic I had no idea how out of touch with reality I was. My reality a year ago was grinding and not making much progress in areas of my life that truly mattered. I was on a treadmill moving, but going nowhere, or at least I wasn’t seeing the progress for my efforts. I can’t be the only one emerging out of this pandemic a changed person. There is a saying that “ there is a blessing in the storm.” What has happened to this world was more than a bad storm, and regardless of whether our government withheld information about this virus, it came, destroyed, changed course and hit us with a second wave. It’s been 1 years and 2 months, and we continue to struggle. Although we may have lifted ourselves above the eye of this pandemic there are people who are unable to pick up the pieces and move forward for various reasons. I have used all the available resources to ensure my mental and emotional health. Summer is coming and I looked forward to being outdoors as much as possible. I am thankful for the down time, peace and space to reflect on life. I have pressed the reset button here is what the pandemic has taught me.
1. I am not going back to the same work grind.
2. I realize I can live on less and save more ( had time to reflect on the ways I was wasting money).
3. I have a plan for retirement that’s achievable ( before the pandemic I had no idea how to retire or what was needed to have a successful retirement ).
4. I am finally in a position to change careers. During the pandemic I took advantage of online classes acquiring the needed certification for my new career.
5. I will stop delaying traveling starting with this year’s ( 2021) cross country drive from New York City to California. This has been on my bucket list for 15 years. And yes, I will be blogging about this experience.
6. I will no longer deny myself any pleasure things like dining out, Broadway plays, weekend getaway, spa treatments, girls night out, spending the holidays with my mother ( she lives in South Carolina).
7. Finally going to adopt a dog I have been wanting to do this for years.I live alone and will welcome a 4 legged companion. I went through the pandemic home alone and it was difficult.
Most importantly, I am kinder to myself. Right now I am happier and peaceful than I have been in years. I am looking forward to the future with better clarity and with an achievable plan.
To the people of the blogging community remember this W.I. N. think about What’s Important Now?
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The Elephant in the room🐘
Women are not the only ones who have parts of them that are broken.
Men have mental health issues that are not being addressed.
We won’t be a society that heals unless we are willing to hear both sides of the story. Men hurt just as much as women.
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