For the people who have difficulty distinguishing what Depression/ Mental illness/ Emotional Trauma is or isn’t…Read This.
Mental illness, depression or emotional damage isn’t a sour mood, bad attitude, evil spirits, pretend, a cry for attention, fun, a hobby, habit, a mask or a choice. People who suffer with mental illness or the trauma from emotional damage whether diagnosed or undiagnosed these people live in constant judgement, pain, confusion and darkness.
Mental illness or emotional trauma doesn’t take a vacation and won’t mysteriously disappear, and it’s certainly not something people outgrow, medication might help, but for many people the battle to have normal days is an ongoing struggle. No one can drink away, pray away, or wish away mental illness or the damage caused by emotional abuse. And, as quiet as it’s kept men suffer from mental illness, depression and emotional brokenness just as much as women do. Even so, society has set forth a ” bro code” that real men don’t cry and tell. Men are made to feel weak and ashamed if they admit that they are struggling with some form of mental illness, thus they remain silent suppressing anger and resentment towards a society that has created only a few places where men can go and feel safe to talk and heal.
Women of all colors, cultures, and different religious beliefs who suffer from mental illness, depression, low self esteem, low self worth, brought on by childhood trauma, sexual abuse, emotional neglect, and domestic violence, having to grow up too fast, and as children are told not to tell, and are brain washed to believe that no one, meaning a man will want her, if he discoverers that she is emotionally broken or damaged good. So, what do most women do? They act out. They become promiscuous, hooked on drugs, addicted to bad relationships, victims of domestic violence, or collecting baby father’s searching for healing in all the wrong places feeling abandoned, scared, alone and hopeless.
Children are the most vulnerable to mental illness that sometimes follow them into adulthood. We live in a society that turns a blind eye to how children are affected by the chaos that surrounds them in the world, on television, and their living situations. We are currently living in a revival of violence against children, racism, and broken families, especially in the black community. By the same token, a child’s future is endangered by parents who are too quick to have their child diagnosed and medicated to receive a government check. This begins a lifetime of children being falsely labeled as damaged, danagerious, and unable to learn. There are some children who are born with learning disabilities or an illness that cause them to lag behind in growth and slow to reach certain cognitive and developmental milestones. But, what about the children who live in homes where they experience emotional and physical trauma due to the lack of basic needs, and there is an increasing number of children living in situations where love is rarely expressed, their voice isn’t heard, family time is non-existent, and the most damaging aspect is children being raised in single parent homes or by aging grandparents.
Some of the most devastating effects of mental illness is that it destroys families and marriages, people find it difficult to maintain employment, and friendships, they feel alone, judged and isolated. The best that the medical professionals seem to be doing is developing more medications or recommending institutionalization for the safety of society. I wrote about this topic because I experienced depression at a young age and it was left untreated for years, I observed domestic violence in my childhood home, and I saw the damage that men can do when they are angry. I am a survivor of domestic violence, currently on the path to an amazing journey of healing from the damage of emotional trauma and learning to create a better life. I hope that everyone who reads and shares this conversation about mental illness and depression for a better understanding of acceptance and inclusion.
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