The Elephant in the room🐘

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Women are not the only ones who have parts of them that are broken.
Men have mental health issues that are not being addressed.

We won’t be a society that heals unless we are willing to hear both sides of the story. Men hurt just as much as women.

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4 thoughts on “The Elephant in the room🐘

  1. JR, I think women’s mental issues are often viewed very casually and superficially. Men’s mental health issues are often undiscovered and untreated. When will mental health care lose its stigma?
    Your poem expresses the problem well. ❤

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    • True to all that you have said. One day I hope we can find balance to help both men and women. I think unsolved mental health problems have a long term negative impact on children and adults.

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      • I’m glad you addressed this important topic via your poem.

        Even in this day and age, there remains a mentality out there, albeit perhaps subconsciously: Men can take care of themselves against sexual perpetrators, and boys are basically little men. The same mentality that might reflect why the book Childhood Disrupted was only able to include one man among its six interviewed adult subjects, there being such a small pool of ACE-traumatized men willing to formally tell his own story of childhood abuse. I’ve noticed over many years of Canadian news-media consumption that when the victims are girls their gender is readily reported as such; however, when they’re boys, they’re usually referred to gender-neutrally as children. It’s as though, as a news product made to sell the best, the child victims being female is somehow more shocking than if male. Also, I’ve heard and read news-media references to a 19-year-old female victim as a ‘girl’, while (in an unrelated case) a 17-year-old male perpetrator was described as a ‘man’.

        The author of The Highly Sensitive Man (2019, Tom Falkenstein) writes at the beginning of Chapter 1: “You only have to open a magazine or newspaper, turn on your TV, or open your browser to discover an ever-growing interest in stories about being a father, being a man, or how to balance a career with a family. Many of these articles have started talking about an apparent ‘crisis of masculinity.’ The headlines for these articles attempt to address male identity, but often fall into the trap of sounding ironic and sometimes even sarcastic and critical: ‘Men in Crisis: Time to Pull Yourselves Together,’ ‘The Weaker Sex,’ ‘Crisis in Masculinity: Who is the Stronger Sex?’ and ‘Search for Identity: Super-Dads or Vain Peacocks’ are just a few examples. They all seem to agree to some extent that there is a crisis. But reading these articles one gets the impression that no one really knows how to even start dealing with the problem, let alone what a solution to it might look like. One also gets the impression from these articles that we need to keep any genuine sympathy for these ‘poor men’ in check: the patriarchy is still just too dominant to allow ourselves that luxury. … ”

        Perhaps what makes me most concerned about a lack of societal/institutional attention on men’s concerns/mental health is that by not properly addressing (other than demonization via news/social/entertainment media) what generally creates abusive men, for example, their abused sons and/or daughters can go on to abuse their own children — and so the tragic, painful cycle may continue.


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