Have you noticed the new movement of motivational speakers and relationship experts who claim their sole purpose is to help people discover the hidden secrets of how to have a loving and lasting intimate relationships. There are thousands of books and videos posted on soical media by these self proclaimed relationship experts who earn income form speaking engagements, books and relationship workshops all at the expense of broken hearts and lost souls searching for love.
Women are pouring into relationship conferences that charge a fee to hear what they are doing wrong in their relationships, and how to attract the right partner. I’ve been unsuccessful in love, so I began to pay attention to these relationship experts, and invested money in books and workshops. For the most part I found some of the information useful and discovered areas in my life that needed improvement. But, I am not going to shoulder all the blame for not having successful relationships. Why? Because overtime while attending these relationship workshops I began to notice a trend, most experts heaped the blame for failed relationships on women.
The ideology of these experts seems to centered around advising women to be better, raise their standards, don’t date out side their league, stop chasing men, stop making life easy for men, stop having sex, stop wanting marriage, and wait for the man to make the first move. There theory is that It is the duty of women to guard their virginity because men don’t women who’ve been around the block too many times. Men want good girls, you know the saying, ” sugar and spice and everything nice.” While being a nice girl, women should concentrate on securing an education, building a career, and a solid credit score, and finances in preparation for Prince Charming. And when he comes all her aspiration should shift to serving her family and creating a happy home. I say, most of their expert advice is ” B. S.” and sexism.
Most of the dating resources and advice claim that woman are not supposed to change the rules of dating. A womans position is to be meek, humble, submissive, and attentive to her mans needs. Some relationship experts explain that women contribute to the deterioration of a relationship due to them pursuing careers over a relationship, marriage and children. The experts also suggest that most men leave their homes or have outside relationships because their current partner is not meeting their needs.
I won’t bore you with a list of books, YouTube channels, and podcasts focused on educating women in the ways of how to get and keep a man. I don’t want my readers to think that I am discouraging women from seeking advice to help them find a partner or to save a failing relationship. I am suggesting” let the buyer beware” before dooming themselves to a life of being a spinster. Ladies decide for yourself the information that will or will not be helpful because the bottom line is it takes two to tangle.
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Yes, I have noticed these things. I’m here to say that all of these things are not necessary to find husband. If a woman do all these things she could do them because she wants to do them, not to get a man. Men really don’t care about all these things:
“The ideology of these experts seems to centered around advising women to be better, raise their standards, don’t date out side their league, stop chasing men, stop making life easy for men, stop having sex, stop wanting marriage, and wait for the man to make the first move. There theory is that It is the duty of women to guard their virginity because men don’t women who’ve been around the block too many times. Men want good girls, you know the saying, ” sugar and spice and everything nice.” While being a nice girl, women should concentrate on securing an education, building a career, and a solid credit score, and finances in preparation for Prince Charming. And when he comes all her aspiration should shift to serving her family and creating a happy home. I say, most of their expert advice is ” B. S.” and sexism.”
I agree it’s malarkey.
If a woman have a family she must do some of these things but not to the degree the experts say.
Going about your business with confidence, looking your best is most likely to attract more men than any of the things listed above.
Besides…how is a man going to know all this about you from the first encounter? 🤔
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Wow. Thank you for taking the time to read my post and for sharing your thoughts. I wasted to much time being in relationships for all the wrong reasons. I like your advice. I am just going about my business and being myself.❤️
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I wish I had known you back then. I would have been like, “Girl leave that jackal alone.”
Yes, I have read a lot of the so called experts advice. One clue: a man always go wherever he’s putting his money, not his trinkets.
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Wow. Your comment brought a smile to my face. Thank you so much for being a loyal follower of dragthepen ❤
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You are welcome and I take this opportunity to wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year for you and your family. A big hug.🧑🎄
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Merry Christmas 🎅 🎄 ❤
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Thank you. 🙂
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There is always money to be made in the pursuit of love’s heartbreak and happiness. The truth is, they may have some tips and tricks, but if these change the way you are, then are they worth it? Everyone is trying too hard for the romance they see on TV. To do that, you need to become an actor and I would rather have the real person. Cheers and Merry Christmas. Allan 🎅🎄❄️
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I love ❤ 😍 your comment it rings truth. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. Happy 😊 Holidays.
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If a woman pretends to enjoy watching football games to ensnare a man, what will she do when she finds herself stuck in front of the TV every weekend? Why not look for someone who shares her interests and philosophy of life? Gimmicks and tricks can backfire! I too have read a few of these books, and, JR, I agree with you 100%! ❤
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Hi. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are correct. I happen to normally be a football fan, but I don’t want a man who thinks that I will spend every weekend watching football.there are other adventures to experience. Happy new year 🎉
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Love this observation you made! If they were “experts” they would know it all starts with our own childhood programming and different attachment styles. A lot of men have difficulty connecting with their emotions because their emotions were shut down so they develop avoidant attachment. Women tend to have anxious attachment. So it’s a push and pull of women unconsciously feeling abandoned and men shutting down because of unconsciously feeling like a failure.
We all want connection. Connection just looks different for everyone.
Plus, connection within yourself is key.
Hell, maybe I should do a seminar LOL
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