No you can’t have my joy!

I refuse to allow anyone to steal my joy! Did you hear me? I refused to allow anyone to steal my joy! This is a confession of a former people pleaser that included allowing people to steal my joy. No, Don’t feel sorry for me I willingly participate in opening the path for people to come Into my life and steal my joy.
How did this happen? Let me explain.
I cared too much about other people’s opinions about me regardless if their judgement was right or wrong. I poured my heart and soul into doing whatever I could to make them like me.
I spend way too much time catering to other people’s needs and disobeyed that voice in my head that whispered ” what about you and what you need”. I was under the foolish impressions that people cared. It took me a long time to come to grips with the fact that people are only out for their best interest, and if they can use you its because your a means to an end.
For years I bite my tongue held my peace and refused to talk back to defend myself. I swallowed every insult and stood strong like a dummy and smiled while saying,” its ok.”
I did things I didn’t want to do and visited places I had no business going. I conspired against people because someone asked me to. I denied myself simple pleasures in life because I was too busy giving them to others who I felt deserved the blessing more than I did.
During all of this I carried a cinder block of unhappiness that I couldn’t explain. I was angry, but I did not know who to be angry at. This cycle continued for years until a incident happened that shook me to the core of my thinking. The first thought was to kiss up to the individual and get back on their good side. But that voice in my head overpowered me and roared No! We are not going to allow this situation to steal our joy! It was amazing. It was like I saw the sun for the first time. I asked myself why? Why should I bend because another person chooses to give me the silent treatment. No. No. No. I will not allow you to take my joy! I have armed myself, I have a plan, I am smiling because my plan doesn’t involve revenge, being angry or showing my discomfort. My choice is simply to go about each day and not allow you to steal my joy!
I refuse to be miserable. I refuse to lose sleep think of way to make things right. I refuse to submit to your will.
Today, and every day, I close the door and will not allow you to enter to steal my joy!

Become The Person You want to Meet

Dear Readers, we live in a society where being in a relationship means to meet certain material requirements. People are compiling list based on their personal needs and if their future partner fail to meet their demands there is n o need to engage in a relationship. I support setting standards, but what I have observe with this generation is that how much you have is how much people will love you.

What say you?    

Words

Dear Readers,

Another share from my 10 day writing challenge this from day seven prompt # 7: How to use your words.

The old saying sticks and stones will break my bones but words will never harm me. Lies. Proverbs 18:21 ( KJV) Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof. Words can kill, they can give life, bless and curse. Some words express hatred, and some are filled with love, hope, compassion, and peace. We are charged today with the task of using our words impeccably, but this isn’t always easy to do. Sometimes situations catch us off guard and we spew out words that we can’t take back. Anger makes our words commit violence acts against others. In sadness words can heal and comfort. We asks for forgiveness with words, but the feeling comes from deep from within. We can use our words to resolve conflicts without verbally insulting others.

Today, I choose to speak words of blessings over my life. I have the gifts and talents to make my life vision a reality. I am motivated, creative, smart, clear, focused, wise, and loving. I choose to live a positive life of happiness and abundance. I choose to use my words to heal, uplift, encourage myself to be and to do better for me because I deserve a good life.

Today, I speak positive blessings over you my readers. My hope for you is that regardless of your struggles your powerful, strong, and able to endure. You can live a positive, happy, healthy, strong life. You have the talents and gifts to succeed. There is only one you to do what you do. Don’t allow doubt, negative chatter from others to distract you from your life’s vision. Go with those voices in your head that say, yes you can and yes you will. I want the best for you because you deserve to live a happy peaceful life.

Now the difficult part. I am supposed to speak words of blessings over a person or people who I don’t have a good relationship with. How do I begin to speak positive words of blessings for people who have said unkind words to me and over me. People who have broken my trust and treated me unkind with their words. How can I say that I wish them well The I remember that hurting people hurt others. We all need love peace, compassion, respect, support, understanding, and forgiveness. My hope for you is that despite speaker words of hate towards me, I hope you find happiness and live an abundant life. I pray that you never harm others with your words of destruction and bad deeds.

Dear Readers, as writers, blogger, vloggers, authors, artist, singer, and teachers we have the power of the pen to help to change the world with our words. How do you use your words?