No you can’t have my joy!

I refuse to allow anyone to steal my joy! Did you hear me? I refused to allow anyone to steal my joy! This is a confession of a former people pleaser that included allowing people to steal my joy. No, Don’t feel sorry for me I willingly participate in opening the path for people to come Into my life and steal my joy.
How did this happen? Let me explain.
I cared too much about other people’s opinions about me regardless if their judgement was right or wrong. I poured my heart and soul into doing whatever I could to make them like me.
I spend way too much time catering to other people’s needs and disobeyed that voice in my head that whispered ” what about you and what you need”. I was under the foolish impressions that people cared. It took me a long time to come to grips with the fact that people are only out for their best interest, and if they can use you its because your a means to an end.
For years I bite my tongue held my peace and refused to talk back to defend myself. I swallowed every insult and stood strong like a dummy and smiled while saying,” its ok.”
I did things I didn’t want to do and visited places I had no business going. I conspired against people because someone asked me to. I denied myself simple pleasures in life because I was too busy giving them to others who I felt deserved the blessing more than I did.
During all of this I carried a cinder block of unhappiness that I couldn’t explain. I was angry, but I did not know who to be angry at. This cycle continued for years until a incident happened that shook me to the core of my thinking. The first thought was to kiss up to the individual and get back on their good side. But that voice in my head overpowered me and roared No! We are not going to allow this situation to steal our joy! It was amazing. It was like I saw the sun for the first time. I asked myself why? Why should I bend because another person chooses to give me the silent treatment. No. No. No. I will not allow you to take my joy! I have armed myself, I have a plan, I am smiling because my plan doesn’t involve revenge, being angry or showing my discomfort. My choice is simply to go about each day and not allow you to steal my joy!
I refuse to be miserable. I refuse to lose sleep think of way to make things right. I refuse to submit to your will.
Today, and every day, I close the door and will not allow you to enter to steal my joy!

How to End a Ralationship

HEARSAY

Dear readers,

They Say, “Confession is good for the soul.”

Others say, “Speaking truth is our moral duty.”

I say, most people have been in a situation when being honest turned into bending the truth. I’m not a supporter of people who tell bold-faced lies, there is no excuse for lying. When I speak about bending the truth I mean trying to spare a person pain. But is hiding information from an individual in their best interest not to know the truth, despite the discomfort that reality will caused them.

Wasn’t there a game show in the 70’s or 80’s called “Truth or Consequence?”

When we are sworn into a court of law, we swear to “tell the truth and nothing but the truth.” Parents teach their children to be honest, no matter what the situation, they must tell the truth. While in the process of development a relationship whether imitate or a friendship, we hold others to be trustworthy. Yet, in many of these scenarios there may be a breach of trust because the truth is hidden behind little while lies.

What say you?

I challenge you to speak the truth

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