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Unfaithful, cheater, and infidelity these are some of the labels used to describe people who engage in a sexual alliance with someone other than their mate. This naughty behavior contributes to the breakdown of trust and shows lack of consideration for the innocent partner.
The adulterers will ask for forgiveness wanting their mate to believe that he/she made a mistake. Pleading momentary insanity, and claiming that “They were experiencing problems in their relationship when they willingly entered into a sexual agreement with another person, and that the sex didn’t mean anything.”
So, not only has the adulterers broken his/her vow of commitment of being monogamist; they fake a performance, trying their best to express content towards the not so innocent participate, who is now “meaningless” because they got CAUGHT. Many women and men in this situation often forgive their partner (the adulterers ) and continue the relationship.
Forgiving adultery is not the dilemma, think about this, forgiving a person who willingly took the time to plan and execute having what they refer to as “meaningless sex” that probably involved lying to their partners, and the adulterers may or may not have used protection, while engaging in the forbidden fruit.
While sitting in the schools cafe taking a must need coffee and lay’s potato chip break, I found myself engaged in a conversation about winners and losers with a freshman. The subject of cheating came up, and from his perspective in today’s society playing fair isn’t expected. He said, ” Some one has to lose for the other person to win; and if the winner achieves their goal by cheating then the mission is accomplished because the end goals is that the winner gets what they want.”
Me: Is there any circumstances where cheating is acceptable?
Student: Depends on the situation.
Me: Are you saying its okay to cheat?
Student: Sometimes because people who cheat win.
Me: Hmmmmmmmm. Why do you feel this way?
Student: People who cheat are smart, they get what they want.
Me: What about honest people?
Student:They are slow that’s why they don’t win.
Me: What happens to the people who are hurt when someone cheats and it affects them?
Students: If a person is going to cheat they can’t allow their feelings to get in the way.
Me: What have your parents told you about cheating?
Student: That its wrong and to always be honest.
Student: Have you ever did something wrong even though you knew it was cheating.
People say that the number one reason relationships end is because couples , out grow each other, or grow apart. Honestly, what does growing apart mean? Didn’t he or she realize that marrying or cohabiting with a coach potato that overtime your partner would remain a coach potato. One spouse has achieved a higher level of education or ambition, resulting in he or she earning a six figure income; and the other spouse is still doing what?
He is a home body, she is a social butterfly. The vegan trying to coexist with a carnivore, high sex drive, sorry, not tonight, I have a headache. she is into physical fitness, him, ” whats wrong with my pot belly?” Wrinkles, snoring, grey hair, no hair, sagging breast and lumpy thighs. We communicate less, and less; forgetting birthdays and anniversaries. Arriving home later, and later, if he or she comes home at all, and sleeps in the guest room. This goes on and on until someone yells, UNCLE!