Stolen Innocence

Dear Readers,

We are becoming a society that is creating the next generation of dysfunctional women. Take a look around, we are pushing little girls into women-hood before they are ready. We are all to blame, however, this misguided introduction on how to become a proper lady begins at home. Today’s parents are lost between satisfying their children’s needs and being a cool parent. Regardless of the tasks parents are up against there is no true reasoning for them to financially support and give their seal of approval for their daughters to dress in a manner that is not age appropriate. The consequence for young girls between the ages of 10-16 dressing inappropriate is that they are subjected to being negatively labeled, and there are men in this society who have no regrades to approaching under age girls. The foundation of family is the root where children learn how to mature into adulthood. It is the duty of  mothers, grandmother and aunts to be positive role models and guide young girls how to conduct themselves in the appropriate manner by teaching them what is acceptable. Most people place blame solely on reality television, rap video’s, and social media because these outlets expose  young girls to a fastidious glamorous life style that requires them to be ” sexy”.  Reminder,  Kim Kardashian become ” famous” not for pro….. any true talent, but she made millions from a sex tape.

There is no rational for young girls between the ages of 8 to 16 to go through the horror of sitting and being fitted for a full weave, full set of nail tips that are shaped like lethal weapons, in addition to waking in 8 inch heels and tight clothing. I have seen 12- 14 year old girls wearing pom pom shorts that expose their butt cheeks, and halter tops exposing the outline of young developing breast, and women around them encouraging them by complementing how cute they look. I recently attended a junior high school graduation for a friends daughter. What I observed during the ceremony was shocking, appalling, and shameful. Young girls wearing micro mini dresses revealing their inner thighs, and the print of their panties lines. Some wore shoes with heels so over the top high that they had to hold onto a friend or family member to walk. Their was cleavage and exposed butt cheeks, hanging out of shorts, and young innocent faces plastered with make up.

The message we are sending to young girls is that enhancing and altering their appearance is the only way society will except them and exposing their private body parts is the standard by which the male gaze says that they are beautiful. We are taking away their innocence and most important we are not allowing them to go through the natural stages from childhood to adolescence to becoming a young women. As adults we are supposed to protect our young girls. The reality is that there is more evil than good in this world.The wolves are out there ready to devalue the minds of young girls. Let’s go back to the old saying, “it takes a village to raise a child”. In this village our young girls will know that they are loved, protected and that they are valved for their inner beauty, intelligence, gifts and talents, not for their bodies.

What say you?

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My Bleeding Heart.

 

Dear Readers,

Valentine’s Day the day, some women hold men hostage for “A RING,” and a few women will receive roses that will dry up and die. Some women get excited on Valentine’s Day because this is the only day out of an entire year when their partners make an extra effort to express love. Women need to discover their worth and stop determining their worthiness by other people’s opinions. Women must understand the value of self-love rather than waiting for a man to show them love. We are more precious than any DIAMOND RING, and our inner and outer beauty surpasses the life of any ROSE. Many women believe Valentine’s Day is that one special day to express love. Actually, it is another commercialized day to encourage people to part with their money all in the name of “Love.” On this day of “Love” women, have unrealistic expectations that they think will last a lifetime. They are not solely to blame for their behavior. There are women in  society who have not received the proper guidance from their mothers because they lacked knowledge and guidance about self-love. Hence, the cycle of women participating in dysfunctional relationships continues because no one has taught them how to break the “generational curse. “Read “The Waiting Game.”

One woman’s journey of heartache and brokenness to healing and redemption.

STAY With Me

Dear Reader,

Commitment, promise, obligation, assurance or pledge, these are a few words that people use when they desire their partner to COMMIT to being involved in an exclusive relationship. To counteract this request men and women will come up with the most creative excuse as to why they do not want to seal the deal so to speak. In these modern times, developing a long-lasting partnership is becoming increasingly difficult to establish. The rules of partnership have changed because people want to test drive a relationship or want a trial period. Here are some facts people have been burnt, hurt, scorned, used, broken, and in some cases emotionally damaged beyond repair. Deep down inside we all desire to have a good, stable partnership, in my own personal opinion and experience relationships do not have to be as dramatic as some people make them. It is disparaging that we live in a society that seldom supports healthy relationships why? We are not creating an environment of support rather we turn our heads and pretend not to notice that couples, especially young couples are struggling with the basic knowledge of how to nurture each other and cultivate a solid foundation for their relationship. We live in a society where the means to fix a broken relationship is for each person to engage in relationships outside of their partnership, getting their needs meet because they claim that they are not receiving what they need from home. We have advanced into using any means necessary to avoid going home. Men calming they are working late and women take on projects that will keep them away from home. Better yet, one partner works in the daytime while the other works at night calming that this is the best solution for the children. There are hundreds if not thousands of books and article written by professional who claim to have a remedy to restore these damaged relationships. Maybe some of their suggestion and research-based solution might work for some, in the meantime, all of this dysfunction, drama and avoidance in relationships is all due to one simple word COMMIT.

What Say You?