Relationship 101

Dear Readers, In today’s Society there are countless broken relationships and this leads to dysfunctional homes. Couples are felling stuck and have become complacent in their routine living arrangement, and few people are making the effort to speak up. I suggest to going back to the beginning. Take a meaningful stroll down memory lane reconnect to why you committed to a partnership. You might be surprised about what you discover and this could place you on the road to healing.

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What Say You?

Greetings readers,

I am back, did  you enjoyed your Independence day celebration?….Speaking of Independence

Some people  say, times have changed. I say, people have changed.

Flashback… to the days when wives stayed at home while husbands worked to support their families.

Moving forward to the birth of the women’s movement and feminist ideology causing women to leave their homes, and join the work force. However, women are still expected to come home and perform their domestic duties.  Most of the women I spoke to about women working outside of the home, said they felt that ” society and their families are punishing them for wanting to be recognized for more them just a stay at home house wife.”

The punishment these women are referring to is the labels given to “women who want have it all. They are called Superwoman or Ms. Independent, High maintain, and because they have a job, they don’t need a man. Women in the work force are belittled and told that they are trying to compete with men. So, chivalry is dead, because women raised their voices and want to have a say, instead of being dictated to by a cultural belief that “a women’s place is in the home.”

Back to the matter of women who feel they are being punished for wanting to earn a pay check, obtain an education and explore their creative abilities. Husbands are demanding that their wives  give of their earnings and contribute to the household expenses; as away of a wife ” doing her part.”

When referring to the financial situation in a relationship, I hear this phrase ” Whats mine is mine and whats hers is hers.” Gone are the days of what we earn is ours. Husbands are hiding money, wives have to conceal the fact that they have back account.  This why I say, people have changed.

 

What say you?

 

 

Things that stay in out Minds

Dear Readers,

I had a flash back when I was a teen about 13 or 14 my father told me the story of creation. His version came from  the book of Genesis. I remember him telling  me that in order for  Gods  creation of the Garden of Eden complete, he ( God) fashioned a man ( Adam) to rule over the Garden of Eden. After a few days God saw that Adam was lonely. He ( God) realized that a man being alone is not ” a good thing.” So, God made a woman ( Eve) to be Adams ” help Mate”  yes, these are the words my father used ” Help Mate, ” not wife, spouse, ball and chain, better half, the little Ms, or any other label society places upon a woman to describe her relationship with a man.

Anyway, I digress, getting back to the point of ” It’s not good for a man to be alone.” So, here we are in the 21 Century and Bachelorhood is celebrated like a rite of passage, among men who deem themselves lucky not to have been caught in the marriage trap. It seems that with the passing of time a man being alone is a good thing. Today’s modern man do not see women  as an equal partner, but as a nag, an inconvenience or a convenience and a burden.

Most men run when women whisper the words, committed relationship, commitment or marriage. To men the idea of spending  their God given  life with one woman freaks then out because it means being monogamous. Wait a minute wasn’t this Gods intentions? One man to one woman, so that no one would be alone. There are plenty of women who desire to be a ” help mate” than men who wish to oblige them. Wow! And God created then first. Hmmmmm…

What say you?