Did You Understand the Assignment?

my best buddy Peanut

Dear Readers,

Do not close your heart to LOVE. I do not know your experiences because I have not lived your life. I do not know who disappointed, neglect, abused, used, cheated, and committed acts of violence against you, that is not LOVE. I know that it is difficult to heal from the trauma of physical and emotional abuse. I know that what people do not see on the outside is broken on the inside. I know that it is not easy to bounce back from the cycle of dysfunctional relationships. But do not give up on LOVE.

I agree that you should protect yourself from people who have no good intentions towards you. I agree that you should guard you heart, mind, body, and soul from people who will drain you of kindness, compassion, and authentic LOVE. But, if you build a wall around your heart high and tight, shutting yourself away from engaging in social setting that will help you to heal, laugh, smile and to hope; you are robbing yourself of the chance encounter of meeting the one person who will give you authentic LOVE.

When you shelter your heart and mind locking yourself away soaking in the pain of the past, this will result in becoming a bitter, angry, resentful, sad, lonely, and depressed person. I agree that it scary this complicated world of TRUST and LOVE. It is saddening to observe the high number of people who live alone because they choose to give Love only to have their life devastated by an individual whose purpose was to steal, kill, abuse, and destroy because they did not understand the assignment of LOVE.

I was young when I gave my heart away. And after years of dysfunctional relationships and living a life of trauma and emotional brokenness; thankfully, I found the path to healing, forgiveness of myself and other it has been a difficult but necessary journey. I am that person who have built the wall locking myself away from the evil hands and cruel heart of the wolves in sheep clothing. It is a lonely existence, but I feel safe. I long for the joys of companionship, the touch, kindness and warm of another loving human. Life is different when it is just one. I hope that one day that I will meet the one who understand the true assignment of LOVE .

Thank you for stopping by Dragthepen.

Greener Grass part 2

Dear Readers, greener grass part 2       

They say, ” the grass is greener on the other side because it’s watered.”

I say, ” it’s not that the grass is greener, or the water, rather it’s about the quality of the seed”.  To my knowledge every good thing begins with a stable foundation. 

This thought came to me by way of a conversation about people who experience difficulty establishing quality inmate relationships or lasting friendships ( BFF).  I think that all relationship’s should begin by observing the quality of people’s character, morals, and values. So often people get caught up in the tide of emotions graped by feelings of neediness  that this leads some people to be blind sided and unaware of the warning signs of disturbing behavior and patterns from the individuals who are the objects of their desires.  

Some people develop the habit of moving from relationship to relationship thinking that the grass will be greener on the other side when they become dissatisfied with the behavior of their partner. This society is overwhelmed with serial daters and people who are addicted to looking for love and friendship in all the wrong faces. A new relationship won’t fix when people are unwilling to understand the root cause of ” where did we go wrong.” Sometimes it is not always the “we” but the “me.” or the failure to take the time to understand the emotional adjustments and many compromises an individual sacrifice in a relationship and friendship in order to make

 “ The grass greener.” In other words, I think people forget that a relationship is a partnership, it takes both persons to make the time and effort to work together to weed out problems, nurture each other, and understand personalities. Let me put it this way, no two lawns are the same, the greener, healthier and plush grass is not only due to it being watered. It is the attention of the owner, who takes the time to plant the best seed, weed, water, cut and feed the growing grass because the owner takes pride in the fruits of his labor. The lawn that begins its foundation with cheap seed, unnurtured soil, lacks regular watering, bearing weeds and overgrown with neglect,  due to the owner not caring for what he has. 

The seed is your foundation, nurture it and watch it grow.

The VIP Pass

Dear Readers, day 5 of my 10 day writing challenge prompt 5, do you feel like you have a spiritual VIP pass?

Never through of my life as having a spiritual VIP pass. I used to view my life as a series of struggles after struggles, crisis after crisis. I felt that the spirits of the universe were against me, and that my life was supposed to be ugly and difficult. I have given a lot and gained very little. I don’t see myself as a successful person because I don’t have the things that I’ve been striving for. Oh yes, I have a roof over my head, but it’s not mine. I have two-part time jobs but I don’t net the $70.0000 that would give me freedom. People see me as strong, firm, smart, creative, and hardworking. Someone bounce back from setbacks. I have no choice but to bounce back I can’t afford to sit on my butt. I am constantly haunted by the feelings of being a failure. I don’t see any value in what I have done with my life.

Today’s prompt the spiritual VIP pass has led me to thinking about all the wreckage that I have walked away from and not a scratch. I have more than survived I have lived to overcome the darkness to walk in the light. I have been blessed at the 11th hour when it seemed all hope was lost. My spiritual VIP pass helped me to transform from a low wage earning high school dropout to a college grad, educator, professional singer, author, motivational speaker and so much more.. Answering today’s prompt has allowed me to think about the connection of people, places and events that have come into my life even just for a season and down the line I understood the reason. I have held onto and continue to press on with the believe that the power of this universe hears me, helps me, talks to me, protects me, guides me, loves me unconditionally and supplies all of my needs. I have had some bad lows along with a few highs and I am still here. I Don’t quite understand my journey but I am liking the second half of this two act play called life. I have peace like I have never felt before. I remain confident that this spiritual VIP pass will bring to me what I need when I need it.

Quote of the day

All love that has not friendship for its base is like a mansion built upon the sand.

Ella Wheeler Wilcox

What Say You?

Marriage Advice from 1886

Dears readers,

Let your love be stronger than your hate.

Learn the wisdom of compromise for it is better to bend a little than to break.

Believe the best rather then the worst.

People have a way of living up or down to your opinion of them.

Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. The person you choose to marry is deserving of the courtesies kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

Please hand this down to your children and your children’s children: The more things change the more they are the same.

 

Jane Wells ( 1886)

Submitted by Carol Abbs

We Who Have Love

We who have love, alas! may not be friends,

Too faint, or yet too fierce the stifled fire-

A random spark-and and lo! our dread desire

Leaps into flame, as through to make

amends

For chill, blank days,and with strange fury

rends

The dying embers of Love’s funeral pyre.

Electric, charged anew, the living wire

A burning message through our torpor

sends.

Could we but pledge with loyal hearts and

eyes

A friend worthy of the fair, full past,

Now  mutilate, and lost beyond recall,

Then might a Phoenix from its ashes rise

Fit for a soul flight; but we find, aghast,

Love must be nothing if not all in all. ~Corinne Roosevelt Robinson

 

What say you?