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Letters to Self
Happy New Year and Welcome to Dragthepen
I am back from a much needed rest. I have had time to reset and refocus, and I am feeling stronger emotionally. I have a new plans for moving forward with my new brand http://www.conversationswithjrfloyd.com/ and for my blog Dragthepen.
Questions, are you planning to start 2020 with making useless resolutions? Are you setting yourself up for failure, again by making promises to live your best life? Have you sat down and spend time in deep thought about YOU and the plans for this best life.
let me help you get started I want to introduce my new theme and challenge for the 1st 6 months of 2020.
1st, I challenge you to make a list of your top 6 goals, this takes real thinking about areas of your life that need to improve in order to achieve your goals. There are some things that you might have to clear out of your life in order to make room to receive the new blessings.
2nd, turn those goals into a creative vision board: if you need help in this area there are tons of video’s on you tube to get you started. Word of caution don’t go crazy with unrealistic goals. I am talking about things that you know you can accomplish by making small steps that turn into to big results.
3rd, I would like to help you rid yourself of emotional baggage and fears by suggesting that your write letters to yourself.
Create a space in your house where you can setup your visions board and write these letters to self. this must be a place where your going to be undisturbed, remember this space is for you to send time looking at your vision back and mapping out plans to make your goals a reality. In these letters you can write about emotions or experiences that you’ve been suppressing, like past break ups, people, pain, anger, poor choices you’ve made, or for letting go of your dreams.
I am suggesting this letter writing exercise because the letters that I have written to myself have helped me to go deeper into my healing process and open areas of my life that I have hold onto for too long.
For more on this letter writing process you can follow me on my You Tube channel Conversations with J. R. Floyd or m live chat on facebook……in the coming New Year 2020, I will be sharing live my letters to Self and giving my viewers a new topic to write about each month.
Thank you for reading.
New Resolution versus A Bucket List
Resolution: A firm decision to do or not to do something. A Bucket list: a list of everything that you want to be, do, have or experience in life.
Look at the meaning of the word resolution it’s a “decision” to ponder then worry about the consequences of making the wrong choice; or dealing with the guilt of not following through with losing weight, limiting caffeine intake, to stop smoking, and eat healthier the list goes on and on.
May I suggest considering a bucket list instead. Imagine the joy of skydiving, changing careers, opening a business, taking a dance class, traveling, and taking a cooking class to release that gourmet cook crying to get out. A bucket list is about “doing” “being” and “experiencing, “ all the things that people keep insisting are impossible because we are too busy being responsible adults.
A bucket list should be fun and obtainable and the upside is that there is no pressure to get the list completed in twelve months. The truth of the matter is life gets in the way of those resolutions like the donuts in the office break room; they sabotage your resolve to eat healthier, so you tell yourself as your eating that second chocolate eclair washing it down with a cup of coffee.
I did not realize I had a bucket list until I wrote down a list of goals I had accomplished. In my 20’s I modeled for the School of the Visual Arts and was a professional gospel singer. In my 30’s I became a freelance writer having no prior experiences. In my 40’s I wrote an award winning play, became a grandmother, and dated a rock star for six years. Now in my 50’s, I have completed my memoir, The Waiting Game” had a supporting role in a play and changed careers twice. This year I am adding to my bucket list photography and auditioning for another play. Not bad for a high school dropout who only wanted to get an education and have a great paying job.
What are you waiting for? Drop those deadbeat resolutions and get started on that bucket list.
What say you?
Dreams or Goals?
Dear readers, I’ve been advised not to have dreams, because they can sometimes turn into nightmares.
Instead, I’m told to set goals, map out a plan to achieve these goals. I’ve watched some people talk about dreams, or day dream about dreams. Some people dream all their lives, they never wake up to the reality, that a person can keep a desire or an image of a dream in their mind, but if they are not taking the necessary steps, no matter how small to accomplish their hearts desire, than it because just a dream.
Dreams are necessary to Life-Anais Nin
What say you?