It Made a Difference

This weekend while keeping watch on hurricane Henri, I had the pleasure of staying with my bestfriend and his mother for three days.We cooked, played music and card games, watched movies and took random naps.

I’ve lived alone for twenty-four years, and enjoy my peace, space, alone time, and having my own bathroom. Living with people has been a difficult experience either I find others to be noisy, sloppy, and they have too many guest over. When I was dating I felt uncomfortable when my boo asked to sleep over. I couldn’t wait for him to leave to change the sheets, clean the bathroom, open the windows letting fresh air in, thus returning the house back to it’s normal state.

On occasions I don’t mind cooking and inviting family and friends over. The truth is I thought that I had adjusted to being alone because it made life easier. Lately, I’ve been feeling the need for companionship, and decided to look into adopting a small dog. In the meantime, here’s what I’ve learned from my three day stay at my BFF’ house.

I think It’s time to find someone compatible to live with, I don’t believe in the theory that opposites attract. I don’t desire to live alone into my golden years, because being alone into old age means no one to share meals with or talk about our day, share dreams and accomplish goals together. There is no laugher, hugs, shared chores, or someone to hurry home to.

To achieve my goal of filling my house with the joys of happily ever after; I first have to overcome my fear of dating.The burden of my past trumatic relationships that hinders me from getting back into the dating game. Some men want to move too fast or they’re looking for intimacy without a desire for a long term committed relationship.

My three day stay reminded me of how happy, loving and warm a home can be when the rights souls occupy it.

Whats your Relationship Status?

Dear Readers,

New Flash!! Did you know what kind of relationship your in?  I never thought about this question until I had a conversation with  a group of Millennial’s about relationship status. I wasn’t prepared for their openness and the nonchalant manner they view relationships. Did you know that we live in a society where relationships have titles and definitions. Gone are the days of boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boys asks girl to go steady, she says yes, and the rest is history…. This method of dating worked for my parents they were marred for 32 years.

Here’s a fact: People are emotionally scared because they invest time, energy, money and their emotions into what they perceive to be an exclusive relationship only to discover that they were in a SITUATION, instead of a relationship.

These are some of the classifications of relationships that is now viewed as situations.

  1. Just kicking it.
  2. Friends with benefits
  3. complicated
  4. Side piece
  5. Lets just see what happens
  6. Mr. or Mrs. for right now
  7. Just something to do
  8. Open relationship
  9. In between relationships
  10. Undecided

So, What Say you? Because I am at a loss for words.

J. R, Floyd Host of YouTube: Conversations with J. R.

Mr. Wrong Versus MR. Right, the people’s Choice

Greetings from the Mad Dater,

 

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Most women have an ideal  image of their dream man in their minds, If you’ve been following the Mad Dater you know that her idea of Mr. Right is, a man who lives by descent valves,  is honest, compassionate, Romantic, faithful, educated, domestically capable, ambitious and is relationship ready. What if this supposed ideal man isn’t the right man?

Speaking from person experience, I’ve spent too much time with Mr. Wrong. How do I know this? Well, at the moment I am single and have been for years, I am on a journey to find Mr. Right. What I can tell you that I’ve learned about myself  thus far is that, I’ve accepted poor treatment from men, I am bad at asking for what I want and need. I don’t ask the important questions, and I am quick to give up and run, once I perceive that the man I am dating  has too many flaws.

We all have friends and family who pass judgment on someone  we’ve dated, currently dating or married. The people closest to us will tell us who is right or wrong based upon their connection to us; and they claim to only want the best person for us. The question is are our family and friends rejecting or accepting the person we are attracted to based on their standards ?

Nowadays, dating is no longer an intimate situation between two people. Think about this, we sometimes make our choice for a mate based upon other people’s reactions. This should not be, at the end of the matter, when the door is closed, it is me who will have a relationship  Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong.

WHAT SAY YOU?