Gratiude

Dear readers,

Today, I am grateful for my life. I’ve been observing the life style of some of my family and friends, and sometimes I secretly  wished that I had what they have. But upon close investigation, I’ve come to understand that most of them  that I’ve watched with the GREEN EYES of ENVY  with all  their material assets; house, cars, trips, expensive clothes, and other accessories, some of them lack peace and freedom. Let me explain, they seemed happy with all that they have gained, however, while a rare lunch date with my best friend, she confirmed my assumption, when she said, ” There are days that I wished that I could live like you.” I didn’t respond because I was thinking, she has a house, two cars, three beautiful children, and a husband who provides for her. She must be mad, I worked two jobs, ride public transportation ( took  on the second job to save for a car), and I haven’t been in a relationship for six years.

Before I could question her, she continued. “I love my family, but I wished that I would have waited to live my life. You live free of the burdens of having to find a baby sitter for three kids in order to have date night, which is rare, or to go out with the few friends I have. Your house is always clean and quiet. In my house, I constantly hear  voices, asking and demanding my time and attention. I’m totally depended on my husband financially and at time he is tight with money.Besides begin married for 15 years, having my children, I have nothing to show for what I have accomplished beyond my marriage. You travel, paid your way through college, published a book, your self-sufficient, and unlike the rest of the women in our circle you didn’t settle. When you marriage wasn’t working, you left and didn’t look back. Anyway, girl I’m venting, how is the new book coming?”

We continued to eat  lunch and talked about my next book. We parted ways and when I arrived home, put the key in my door to be greeted by my  dogs wagging tail of excitement, It was a that moment that I knew that I haven’t been grateful for my life. I have all that I need and my life is the exactly the way it should be.

What do you have to be grateful for?

Gold Diggers

Dear readers,

” There is gold in them hills”

The phrase “Gold digger” used to refer to a time in history, when people rushed from all corners of the earth, to the hills of California with the hopes of discovering gold.

Nowadays, ” Gold digger” is aimed at women, mostly black women, who  go in search of men, who have acquired wealth, to either use as a “sugar daddy” or to trap these men into marriage. And in the case of divorce these “Gold diggers” can continue to live in the life style they have become accustomed.

Question? Why should women be ashamed or be shamed by public opinion because they desire to have a man who is able and willing  to support her in the manner that she desires.

Confession… I wished I’d paid attention when it came to financial security, when I said, ” I Do” to my ex-husband, who left me in $20.000.00 debt I worked two jobs to pay off. I made the decision to listen to my heart, while he went for my pockets. Next time around, I’m keeping my pockets closed, my financial business to myself, and  my eyes and ears open.  Lesson learned “Gold diggers” don’t only come in the form of a women.

What Say You?