Farewell to the Mad Dater.

Greeting from the Mad Dater,

I am not the kind of person who gives up easy, or throws in the towel too soon; but the dating game is a battle, I raise the white flag, throw up my hands and surrender.  No, I am not admitting defeat, however, the dating is a challenge I chose not to take on now.

Sore loser you Say.

Well, if have not noticed the rules of dating have changed; they are confusing. There seems to be a shortage of men with less than gentlemen like mannerism. Instead, there are men who favor moving from first straight to home base after one date.

I’ve  begun my journey four months ago to find a suitable mate. Online dating did not help matters; I have one word for dating websites, “Horrific.” I shall continue to believe in the romantic notion of boy meets girl, boy likes girl and the rest is history.

In my first book, The Waiting Game, by J. R. Floyd, I wrote about wasting my younger years looking for love in all the wrong places. Regardless of those bad experiences, I hold onto hope and wait for the one who is right for me.

What Say You?

The workplace blues.

 

Dear Readers,

Once upon a time people treated their work space and place of employment like it was their home. But time have changed and so have people’s attitude about their place of employment. Back in the day a persons place of employment was considered to be a part of a second family. People where more relaxed and thier surrounding reflect an atmosphere of being at home. People personalize their work space with family pictures that told the story of their life, and other employee where Interested in each others lives,  and took time to show that they cared. Most people remained at their places of employment until retirement. They didn’t feel the need to seek out growth outside of the company because growth within a company was encouraged. Back in the day people enjoyed their lunch and coffee breaks it was a period of the day to leave the work environment and take a moment to distress. In the good old days of 9 to 5 people weren’t pushed to muilti task and to perform like machines. Once the clock chimed 5 the work day was over and people looked forward to going home to have dinner with their families. Carpooling was common among employees and it wasn’t viewed as an unpleasant chore. Carpooling was another way that people spend time taking, connecting and sharing.

Fast forward….

Nowadays, people are spending an excessive amount of time at their place of employment and less quality time at home. The work place has dramatically changed  the mannerisms and atmosphere is the employees versus the employer. Upper management controls all the swanky offices that reflect the position of power and money, while the people who do the difficult tasks are down in the trenches reduced to working in shabby make shift cubicle that doesn’t allow them the space to make themselves comfortable. People are separated by teams and are pitted against each other, and upper management controls who they deem the weaker employees by the use of fear. There is a level of distrust because of the office or company ” snitch.” Budget cuts and companies downsizing employers are asking employees to do more with less. People are afraid to speak out in fear of retaliation from upper management. Very few people view going to their place of employment with joy and enthusiasm. And the newcomers are forced to join established cliques in order to show their loyalty.

The bottom line is this we are all connected and each member of the team should be viewed as an equal despite the pay gap. Think about this we buy clothing every day. Have you ever given thought to the people who make the fabric, the person who sews the garment, and the people who package them for shipping. They men and women who load and unload the trucks, the sales associates who unpack, label and arrange the clothing in the store. Oh and let’s not forget the stockroom crew who work behind the scenes. We are all connected. I say lets go back to making our place of employment an atmosphere of enjoyment.

what say you?

Dragthepen

A matter of opinion.

Dear Readers,

It puzzles me how women of today have lowered their standards when it comes to dressing. They outfit themselves in clothing that makes them appear to be slack and careless to the point of being naked. The latest trend is wearing shorts with their butt cheeks exposed, and thongs and breast visible beneath flimsy dresses, and wearing midriff tops showing multiple layers of their stomachs hanging out and tightly smashed looking like a stuff sausage. Not to mention the awful habit of wearing tights revealing the imprint of their lower bodies from front to back. There is so much more that I can say, but I dare not go on. Slackness in attire does not mean class or style. Class and style begins with a state of mind and mannerisms that complements clothing that are age and size appropriate. I know what you are thinking, it’s their bodies let them do what they want. I agree, but here me out, the women who declare that as a part of self-expression they should be able to wear what pleases them and not others; are the same women who exclaim that they have difficulties meeting men of high quality. These women are searching for men who are Business owners, CEO’s. Doctors, Lawyers, Professional Athletes, some even hope to meet a Trust Fund baby. I have observed that men who are on the receiving end of a six-figure income and higher, often engage in flings, or side romances with women who devalue them by dressing slack, in other words, these women are known as the “Side Piece”. On the other hand, in the words of the late singer Rick James, these women are “super freaks the kind you don’t take home to mother.”  A man of high intellect, income, class status and reputation would be lower his standards and position in society when stepping out with women who is deemed beneath him. Case in point, it was reported in The Sun that Prince Philip, Duke of Edinburgh, advised Prince Harry, Duke of Sussex not to wed Meghan Markle’ “as one steps out with an actresses, you don’t marry them.” When Michelle Obama, Former first lady of the United States meet Barack Obama, he was a young college student, and he dressed in a shirt and pants every day. When Jackie Kennedy meet John Kennedy, she had set a standard for her class and style way before she became the first lady. I will say in their defense that we cannot fully blame today’s’ so called modern women for the common means in which they dress. Look around there is very few women who model the proper decorum. Most women today mimic reality celebrities and big name Hollywood stars in fashion of the more skin, buttocks, breast that is exposed the better. Furthermore, this generation of women who have found themselves at an advanced age do not care to dress like grandma use to because it seems to be old and out of style, they are wrong modesty is never out of style. Please forgive me for this rant, do not take this as body shaming, or bashing as I am saying aloud what most people are thinking.

What say you?

 

 

Reality Check

Dear readers,

Lately, I’ve called attention to people’s mannerism or lack thereof, and the words that we use or have taken out of our vocabulary. My parents raised me and my siblings to see the good in people, to share, be kind, and if we didn’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.  I know that their instructions were given with love and for intention, to see their children mature into caring adults. However, they were raised during an era when people had different values, and family and community was a very important part of everyday life.

Fast-forward………. Today most people don’t think in terms of what’s good for their community or family. It is difficult for me to come to terms with the truth that are “Self-thinking.” And that Self-centered people don’t have any sentiments about the impact that their negative, selfish, and arrogance have on others. Recently, my blinders were unkindly ripped from my eye, to my astonishment I’ve been living in denial. Let the truth be told, people have become cold and malicious, I regret that there is no “Nice” way to say this. I’ve spent too much time making excuses for people who aren’t “good.” I’ve gave freely of my time to people who didn’t deserve it.  My time would have been better spent volunteering at an animal shelter. First, for my love of cats and dogs, second, they are deserving of the love and the time I give to them.

Now, the last part of my parent advice, “say something nice” I’m happy that I no longer exist in denial, and that the blinders are off, it never too late to learn. I intend to be on my guard, I will ask questions, no longer will I give freely of my time, and finally, everyone who smiles or calls me friend don’t necessarily have good intentions.

What say you.

Farewell to the Mad Dater.

Greeting from the Mad Dater,

I am not the kind of person who gives up easy, or throws in the towel too soon; but the dating game is a battle, I raise the white flag, throw up my hands and surrender.  No, I am not admitting defeat, however, the dating is a challenge I chose not to take on now.

Sore loser you Say.

Well, if have not noticed the rules of dating have changed; they are confusing. There seems to be a shortage of men with less than gentlemen like mannerism. Instead, there are men who favor moving from first straight to home base after one date.

I’ve  begun my journey four months ago to find a suitable mate. Online dating did not help matters; I have one word for dating websites, “Horrific.” I shall continue to believe in the romantic notion of boy meets girl, boy likes girl and the rest is history.

In my first book, The Waiting Game, by J. R. Floyd, I wrote about wasting my younger years looking for love in all the wrong places. Regardless of those bad experiences, I hold onto hope and wait for the one who is right for me.

What Say You?