Invasion of Space

Public display of affection (PDA) Romantic Gestures or Not?

We have witnessed couples French kissing in public, or the couple kissing every two seconds, and groping each other. They don’t appear to be uncomfortable with public displays of affection leaving the people around them squirming, cringing and rolling their eyes in disapproval thinking “Get a Room.” The question is how much public display of affection is over bearing, and are there places that are off-limits like, public transportation, the beach, parks, and the middle of the street. Is public display of affection an expression of love or just bad etiquette and inappropriate? In some cultures, PDA is taboo and regarded as disrespectful. Why do people feel the need to indulge in public displays of affection?

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A Throw Back From The Past.

Dear readers,

The Absence of Silence and Etiquette

Thank you, pardon me, please, would you mind if I… I am sorry…I did not mean to…..

There was a time when people used their inside voices and manners in place like: libraries, museums, churches, theaters, restaurants and even on public transportation. Initially, being quiet and respectful was too expected, appreciated and the norm. The pleasure of closing out the business and noise of the outside world was a welcomed relief. The act of disturbing someone’s peace was considered a breach of social protocol.

Nowadays noise and being rude is the new commonplace. It seems that the louder and the ruder the better. People are learning to adjust to an increase in noise and bad mannerisms by plugging up and tuning out with more noise; or speaking louder than the conversation next to them. Moreover, making matters worse, we are living in a society of advanced technology that contributes to people exhibiting bad behavior. Furthermore, proper etiquette is no longer being instill in homes, schools and in the work environment. The attitude is that it’s an imposition to ask others to use proper decorum because we have become accustomed to conducting ourselves in an improper manner, and being corrected is considered as an insult.

Do you agree or disagree that we are living in a society that supports the lost art of manners?

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Is it Just Me?

Dear Readers,

I live in New York City. Yes, the big rotten apple. I’m among the millions of city dwellers who rely on public transportation. There are days when my ride is quiet and pleasant, but today wasn’t that day.


My one hour & fifteen minute commute quickly turned into the ride from hell.  There is nothing enjoyable about hearing children screeching for attention from parents who are occupied by their cell phones. Or hearing five different loud conversations by people who are in close proximity. Myself and other passengers were entertained by a Bible toting christian yelling, ” You must be saved” for fifteen minutes. Than there was the paraded of people shaking their cups, to the tune of ” Spare change.” I arrived at my destination mentally drained . I bolted to the nearest souvenir shop  to buy headphones for the commute back home.

Headphones on New York City MTA. Priceless!

What Say You?


A day in the life of the mad Dater



For those who don’t know I live in New York City, yes, the Big Apple or as I like to refer to it the Big Rotten Apple. I am among the thousands of commuters who have the misfortune to be crammed into public trains that are sometimes dirty, smelly, loud and did I mention packed.

Anyway, lots of interesting events occur during these trips. We have subways dancers who endanger themselves and the passengers when they use the trains as their personal stage. The panhandlers who entertain riders with a daily monologue of how unfortunate their life is , and if we give them money this would make their life better for one day. The most interesting interactions are the conversations people have, once such conversation turned into a heated debate between two passengers about women  and clothing.

The argument started like this:

p1. Why do women wear such sleazy clothes?

p2. Women should wear whatever they want.

p1. Not at the expense of insulting my eyes.

p2. What?

p1. Its not what they wear , its how they wear certain items of clothing. I think some women are nasty and have no respect for themselves or their bodies. Warmer weather is no excuses for females to expose parts of their bodies that should be covered. Its a matter of class.

p2. Again, I repeat, women should wear what they want.

p1. Do you notice its the fattest females who squeeze themselves into the smallest outfits, they should look in the mirror.

p2. Maybe they don’t have one ( laugh) skinny women are no better, they feel because they have a smaller  frame they should wear the shortest and tightest clothes.

p1. True, but at least they don’t have multiple rolls of fat coming through their clothes like big girls. I am just saying women should dress appropriate.

p2. Got to go this is my stop. Later.

What say you?