A Saturday Reflection

Dear Readers,

In an ideal world I would have loved to wake up to the warm body of the man I love and a breakfast tray brought to my bed. I grind hard and would enjoy spending this perfect cozy, lazy Saturday with my partner who appreciates me and the effort I put into life and making our partnership a priority. Unfortunately, we don’t live in an ideal world. I woke up along, but praise God for the warm bed and roof over my head. I made my own breakfast tray and enjoy resting in bed before heading out to complete the business of the day. Life would be made easier with a help mate who truly understand that a relationship is a partnership with a balance of two people sharing the daily tasks of life. I am blessed that I am able to take care of myself, but this isn’t the way the creature planned for a man and woman to be alone. Most people like myself choose singleness over settling . I haven’t given up on love I choose to love me and wait until the man who is truly right for me to enters my life. Love yourself you are worth itūüíĖ

Thinking of Self

Dear readers,

The thinking of some people is this once an individual decides to crossover from singlehood into the realm of a monogamist relationship, the word self cannot be used to describe him or her. Why? Because where there was once 1 now there is 2, and self no longer matters. The perspective of others is that the act of being selfish has no place in a relationship. In other words, people who are engaged in a bond of wild romance, ¬†and sexual intimacy should think only about what is good for the ” relationship.” Individuals in a relationship should not act on their own¬†or speak for themselves because their behavior would be considered to be selfish. Therefore, what affects the individual will trickle down to the relationship. Because where there was once 1 now there is 2.

What Say You?

 

Mr. Wrong Versus MR. Right, the people’s Choice

Greetings from the Mad Dater,

 

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Most women have an ideal ¬†image of their dream man in their minds, If you’ve been following the Mad¬†Dater you know that her idea of Mr. Right is, a man who lives by descent valves, ¬†is honest, compassionate, Romantic, faithful, educated, domestically capable, ambitious and is relationship ready. What if this supposed ideal man isn’t the right man?

Speaking from person experience, I’ve spent too much time with Mr. Wrong. How do I know this? Well, at the moment I am single and have been for years, I am on a journey to find Mr. Right. What I can tell you that I’ve learned about myself ¬†thus far is that, I’ve accepted poor treatment from men, I am bad at asking for what I want and need. I don’t ask the important questions, and I am quick to give up and run, once I perceive that the man I am dating ¬†has too many flaws.

We all have friends and family who pass judgment on someone ¬†we’ve dated, currently dating or married. The people closest to us will tell us who is right or wrong based upon their connection to us; and they claim to only want the best person for us. The question is are our family and friends rejecting or accepting the person we are attracted to based on their standards ?

Nowadays, dating is no longer an intimate situation between two people. Think about this, we sometimes make our choice for a mate based upon other people’s reactions. This should not be, at the end of the matter, when the door is closed, it is me who will have a relationship ¬†Mr. Right or Mr. Wrong.

WHAT SAY YOU?