Ladies are you making yourself too available?

Dear Readers,

 There are some omen who make themselves too available for men, and of course we know who benefits from this situation. I observe and personally acquainted with diverse women from various professions, earning power and education, who spend an increasing amount of hours  accommodating men. This post is in detail demonstrating a few areas where women are making mistakes  when dating or uncertain about their position in a situationship. One major problem with women who make themselves too available to men, they become a convenience instead of an equal partner in a loving, supportive long term relationship. One problem with this situation is that the women who ruin men by making themselves ready available, when these men move on it makes it difficult for other women who will not be at a mans beck and call.  

One  mistake some women make while dating is that they tend to perform wifely duties without the benefit of being a wife. For the sake of clarity a wife means a woman has walked down the aisle, taken vows before God and witnesses, and has been bonded with a man in holy matrimony. Not a wife in the sense that women are labeled a wife or in a common law situation. Women need to stop playing the role of a wife without the benefits, taking care of his laundry, cleaning his apartment, cooking, lending him money and your car, and  paying his bills. Ladies this is called playing house and being played. 

Many women are dating without a clear defined purpose or dating with the word desperation stamped across their foreheads; reeking with the scent of I’ll do anything just as long as you make me feel important, and that I am your one and only. Women who make themselves sexually available before establishing whether they are in a committed relationship. Ladies if your willingly give yourself over to a man physically, be ready to accept what’s coming, meaning expect to be asked for sexual favors often, and when you become weary of giving your body to a man who has not committed to you or sees you as his means to release his frustrations, you will  have yourself to blame. Why? Bottom line a man will take what is offered to him. 

 Here are a few ways women set themselves up for failure by answering late night texts, calls, and allow men to show up at their homes unexpectedly. Over time these bad habits become inconvenient to women, and beginning taken for granted. Women who rearrange or adjust their schedule to meet the needs of selfish men who take advantage of women with low self -esteem, because they don’t know their worth.Women became trapped in the bad habit of being a man’s savior by standing by his side even when he is wrong. Overtime women come to the realization that they are not honored or loved because of their good qualities, but because you’re the type of women men call EASY. You’ve made yourself too available and now  you don’t know how to break the spell.   

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Continuing on the subject of , Things fall Apart

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If you just…

I would like you to…

Why can’t you…? I don’t understand why this is difficult for you? You met to like this.

I thought you would have changed.

Sounds familiar?  Heated conversations like this take place between couples because one person feels that their partner isn’t paying attention or taking them for granted. Upon close examination, the root of this problem is that one partner is obsessed with changing, grooming, and molding their mate into who they want them to be. I once heard this saying,  ” let people be who they are.” 

At the start of a relationship most people recite these words, “I accept you for who you are and as you are.” However, overtime the little flaws, pet peeves and human faults, that your partner claims are not an issue become extremely ignoring to them.

Things fall apart, when one partner is no longer interested in meeting the sexual needs of the other, or the bedroom demands becomes unpleasant; opening the door for one partner to use this as an excuse to cheat.

Things fall apart, when complacency, boredom, lack of interest, and laziness is allowed to become a 3rd wheel in a relationship.

Things fall apart, when partners allow their physical appearance to become less flattering.

Things fall apart, when lying starts, secrets phone calls are made, habits change, and date night becomes routine, or they get less and less.

Things fall apart, ….WHAT SAY YOU?