Gratiude

Dear readers,

Today, I am grateful for my life. I’ve been observing the life style of some of my family and friends, and sometimes I secretly  wished that I had what they have. But upon close investigation, I’ve come to understand that most of them  that I’ve watched with the GREEN EYES of ENVY  with all  their material assets; house, cars, trips, expensive clothes, and other accessories, some of them lack peace and freedom. Let me explain, they seemed happy with all that they have gained, however, while a rare lunch date with my best friend, she confirmed my assumption, when she said, ” There are days that I wished that I could live like you.” I didn’t respond because I was thinking, she has a house, two cars, three beautiful children, and a husband who provides for her. She must be mad, I worked two jobs, ride public transportation ( took  on the second job to save for a car), and I haven’t been in a relationship for six years.

Before I could question her, she continued. “I love my family, but I wished that I would have waited to live my life. You live free of the burdens of having to find a baby sitter for three kids in order to have date night, which is rare, or to go out with the few friends I have. Your house is always clean and quiet. In my house, I constantly hear  voices, asking and demanding my time and attention. I’m totally depended on my husband financially and at time he is tight with money.Besides begin married for 15 years, having my children, I have nothing to show for what I have accomplished beyond my marriage. You travel, paid your way through college, published a book, your self-sufficient, and unlike the rest of the women in our circle you didn’t settle. When you marriage wasn’t working, you left and didn’t look back. Anyway, girl I’m venting, how is the new book coming?”

We continued to eat  lunch and talked about my next book. We parted ways and when I arrived home, put the key in my door to be greeted by my  dogs wagging tail of excitement, It was a that moment that I knew that I haven’t been grateful for my life. I have all that I need and my life is the exactly the way it should be.

What do you have to be grateful for?

Venting: Confession of a mad Dater

Photos taken by aahman_-2Having my say

First, I find the games that adult play while dating offensive and mentally exhausting. Making matters worse, some of the suggestions from proclaimed dating and match making experts; focus mostly on women than men. For example, women are advised to make a special effort to look their best at all times, REALLY!

Second, some experts suggests dating a lot this includes having a profile on at least two dating sites. Their theory is that it’s a waste to spend too much time and energy into one person at a time. They say this is the best way to find “the one.”

Third, be willing to visit all the places you enjoy to attract a compatible mate, living in New York City who has time to do more running around.

Here’s what I have to say,

My idea of date is this, boy meets girl, they go out have fun, then boy leaves girl at her front door by being a gentlemen and say ” Good Night.”  This should happen until Mr. Wonderful understands that I have standards and I am serious about an old fashion hands off courtship. I know what your thinking, yeah in my dreams. Well, a girl can hope.

What say you?’