No you can’t have my joy!

I refuse to allow anyone to steal my joy! Did you hear me? I refused to allow anyone to steal my joy! This is a confession of a former people pleaser that included allowing people to steal my joy. No, Don’t feel sorry for me I willingly participate in opening the path for people to come Into my life and steal my joy.
How did this happen? Let me explain.
I cared too much about other people’s opinions about me regardless if their judgement was right or wrong. I poured my heart and soul into doing whatever I could to make them like me.
I spend way too much time catering to other people’s needs and disobeyed that voice in my head that whispered ” what about you and what you need”. I was under the foolish impressions that people cared. It took me a long time to come to grips with the fact that people are only out for their best interest, and if they can use you its because your a means to an end.
For years I bite my tongue held my peace and refused to talk back to defend myself. I swallowed every insult and stood strong like a dummy and smiled while saying,” its ok.”
I did things I didn’t want to do and visited places I had no business going. I conspired against people because someone asked me to. I denied myself simple pleasures in life because I was too busy giving them to others who I felt deserved the blessing more than I did.
During all of this I carried a cinder block of unhappiness that I couldn’t explain. I was angry, but I did not know who to be angry at. This cycle continued for years until a incident happened that shook me to the core of my thinking. The first thought was to kiss up to the individual and get back on their good side. But that voice in my head overpowered me and roared No! We are not going to allow this situation to steal our joy! It was amazing. It was like I saw the sun for the first time. I asked myself why? Why should I bend because another person chooses to give me the silent treatment. No. No. No. I will not allow you to take my joy! I have armed myself, I have a plan, I am smiling because my plan doesn’t involve revenge, being angry or showing my discomfort. My choice is simply to go about each day and not allow you to steal my joy!
I refuse to be miserable. I refuse to lose sleep think of way to make things right. I refuse to submit to your will.
Today, and every day, I close the door and will not allow you to enter to steal my joy!

The Voice of Reason

Dear readers,

To my supporters who are parents please stop what you’re doing and for once listen to the voice of reason. Who Am I? I am the voice you constantly try to ignore or engage in conversation about when and how to have the “the talk “with your children about “the birds and the bees” yes that talk. The first dilemma, who’s going to take the lead, in other words, will mom do the talking, while dad nods his head in agreement or vice versa. What are you afraid of? That you will open the door for your children to explore areas of sexuality that they may not be thinking about? So, you practice your spiel, and plan the perfect time and place.

Hello, Mom, Dad, this is the voice of reason. While you’re wasting time, yes procrastinating, delaying, and stalling, giving this important gift of knowledge that can help your children to made sense of the roller-coaster of the age of adolescence into adulthood; they are out there in the world exploring uncharted territory. You think that they are too young, well while you’re pondering the appropriate age to pass on this information, as the voice of reason it is my duty to remind parents of the increasing number of teen parents who didn’t get “the talk.”

Are you in denial that your little Princess isn’t interested in boys because she spends all her time in her bedroom talking to her girlfriends on the phone. What do you think they are talk about? Boys, who lost their virginity, and how and when they hope to lose theirs. Your all-star handsome son who is the schools most popular athlete, with a bright future ahead of him, but there is only one problem, no one told him the penalty for having unprotected sex with all the girls who offered themselves up Mr. popular.  Parents why aren’t you ready to introduce the topic of safe sex, birth control, and to teach young girls how not to get themselves caught in a situation that they did she coming; hey, I am the voice of reason and I will say it, young males need to be schooled at an early age that, Force Sex is another name for “Rape.” Ouch, did that hurt, am I coming on to strong and wrong?

Parents have you taken a good look around you? The world has changed since the days of the baby boomers, when boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy courts girl properly, if boy wanted to touch girl, they got married and that was the end of that. This what todays parents are up against; the internet is their worst night mare. Ask yourself a question, why is your children under the age of 18 on social media? Cable TV is another ingredient that adds to our children behaving oddly. It calls “ratchet tv” meaning this generation are followers of TV characters on reality tv and they imitate what they see, and who’s paying the bill for that? Parents why are you paying an enormous amount of many to transform your 12-16-year-old daughter into a fully mature 21-year-old complete with, expensive weaves, nails, boobs and so much make up it difficulty to see who’s under the mask. The world isn’t the root of problem.

I am the voice of reason and I say it starts at home. What say You?