Who’s Talking To Who

Dear Readers, Hello, Hello, Welcome to another juicy topic with Dragthepen.

Today’s topics: COMMUNICATION. 

Call it what you like, talking, conversations, discussion chatting, gossiping, or having a dialogue. I say, PEOPLE ARE NOT HAVING MEANINGFUL CONVERSATIONS ANYMORE. There seems to be more ways to communicate due to the improvements in technology, but is this really communicating in a meaningful manner?

Webster’s dictionary defines communication as:  a process by which information, thoughts, feelings  is exchanged between individuals. Okay fair enough, however what I am referring to is the lack of meaningful exchange of ideas, information, thoughts and feelings. 

Some people hide behind social media sending instant messages, texting, emails, recording messages, voice message and videos, replacing face to face in person connection. How much of the meaningful exchange of ideas can we when sending text or IM. How many times have you had to call someone because they took your text, email or IM out of context? 

Relationships and communication are getting more complicated than they need to be. Some relationship experts advise women that if a man is only texting her and not calling this means he is not into her or he is married or has a girlfriend. I have observed people out on dates, girls and guys night out checking their cell phones, or interrupting dinner because of that important call they have to take. Oh, let’s not forget the Emoji using symbols, pictures and characters to express emotions. And here is the big one no one is spelling words completely: smh, lol, thx, wud, lmao, bff, rofl, lqtm, haha, brb, btw, eod, such a meaningful way to communicate, when the person has to text back what does that mean? When children and teens use their short cuts what they are doing is undermining their ability to express themselves in full sentences. 

Communication in the workplace is being reduced to sending emails, text messages, and since the pandemic we’ve become accustomed to zoom meetings that reconnecting  in person meeting as a team is becoming a thing of the past. What’s meeting in the zoom meeting is the camaraderie and in interpersonal relationship building. People talk to each other in passing shouting call me and let’s meet up, phone conversations are brief because people claim  to have a million things to do and being on the phone is preventing them from accomplishing their goals. Remember that song by the Godfather of soul, Talking Loud and Sayin ‘Nothing: Take a look around and you will notice that there is a lot of talking going on, but what are people really saying?

In the homes conversations have become non-in void. 

between partners. 

“ how was your day”? 

Reply, “ it was ok” 

“ what did you do”

 Reply, “ nothing much”

Or something like this 

“ how was your day”?

Reply, “ over and I don’t want to talk about it. I am tired and want to be left along”

 Conversation between children and parents

“ how was your day”?

reply , “ it was ok”

“ what did you do”

Reply, “ nothing much” 

Wives are not allowed to talk to husbands while they are  watching Television and at night no talking in the bedroom because one spouse claims to be too exhausted to talk. In the morning everyone is in such a rush to get to work or school that they don’t make time to say something kind to each other. How many times have we heard people who have left home and met with an unfortunate incident and the other spouse says, “I didn’t even tell him or her that I love her or him this morning”. Or “the last word I had with them was harsh.”

I don’t mean to rant. My goal is to bring awareness to how people take talking or the lack of meaningful conversations for granted. Some of my most cherished memories are the stories that my grandmother, father, Aunts and uncles passed on. They had meaning and were worth listening to.  We all have that one person who is no longer with us that we wish we could talk to. 

When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation? 

Thank you for stopping by Dragthepen.

13 thoughts on “Who’s Talking To Who

  1. This has been a top concern of mine for some time now. It’s frustrating when trying to establish new relationships, be it business or personal, aside from many not wanting to meet for dinner or coffee, they no longer “call”. Everything is through text which is still new to me, but things get misunderstood, we can’t read body language & it’s nice to be able to look into a person’s eyes. I was beginning to wonder if something was wrong w/ me since I’m the common denominator, but I’ve been reassured that it’s simply becoming the way of the world which saddens me. Thanks for the great post.

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    • Hi. Thank you for sharing your experience 😊. I am in the same boat. I am do done with the lack of calls instead of text. I am trying to change this by asking people to please call me.

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      • Do you mind if I ask how people are responding? I’m curious because I’m surprised by the people who stopped interacting all together- professionals who I’ve known for years that have become like family. We’ve celebrated & cried together, etc. There are those I’d expect this from, but others I would’ve never thought.

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  2. I enjoyed your post very much. Emails have been a scourge for as long as I can remember and one I have tackled for just as long. With texts, I really use them for work purposes. However, it is more prevalent within the family. However, if a message is very unclear I will then ring the family member direct.

    With emails, regarding my staff over the years, and even more so once I became a CEO, I put clear expectations in place regarding email usage. For example: use emails for transmitting key documents or significant pieces of information. Do not use email as if it were a text messaging service. Do not send emails to the person sitting next to you unless it is part of a key process – talk face to face instead. If you have not had a response to your key email by me within three days – come and find me. Lastly, do not cc me into everything you and others are doing.

    I am still getting my head around the hybrid workplace and how this can be more effective. The use of Teams, Zoom and the like are more effective if you have had face to face dealings previously with the people on the other end of the video link. You can pick up on their nuances and other behaviour better. Also, I apply the same rules to virtual meetings as I do face to face meetings: don’t be late, everyone will get a chance to participate – work the “room,” keep off your electronic devices, follow the agenda.

    Of course there are all those Apps now too that operate as virtual project management tools or work sharing tools, which have great potential, but are just as challenging staying up with how others are using them.

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